we can't have sex without a condom..

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Registered: 11-21-2004
we can't have sex without a condom..
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Wed, 04-13-2005 - 1:34am

I'm on bc and have been on it for 7 months now. I trust it a lot more than I did in the beginning when my bf and I began having sex. We always use condoms. But we want to see what it feels like without a condom, just naturally.

We've tried a couple times but he doesn't seem to be able to get in. We tried with a little and a lot of foreplay and nothing made me open up or become less tense OR lubricate me any more than I usually do. So we couldn't do it. We tried on three occasions and each time it just didn't work.

He was really hard each time but he was dry and didn't use any other form of lubrication. I'm thinking we're going to have to use lube...but is this common to no tbe able to even get it in without another form of lube? Is there a possibility that my pills are making my natural lubrication, not enough to engage in natural sex? and is using lube the ONLY way we're going to be able to do this? oh and does it make a difference if he's on top or if I am?

Yours truly, full of questions :o)
Thanks!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 1:48am
Yes, BCPs can affect the amount of lube you produce and using an artificial lubricant should solve the problem. But only you know if you're fully aroused or not. Could be that you're still nervous about not using a condom. Again, lube would solve the problem.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 8:24am

The BC pills could be causing you not to lubricate enough.


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