we do not like the same position, help
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| Mon, 12-13-2004 - 2:20am |
Hi, I have a question about this certain position, I don't even know what it's called, but it's something I've never tried before. I met this new guy and I asked him what his favorite position is, and he said when the woman is on her back and her legs are pinned up next to her head. Lately he has been talking about this one position all the time. Now I haven't said anything to him other than I haven't tried it, but can I just say something to you here? I do not want this. Although I haven't had sex for god knows how long, but the one thing I do remember liking is missionary and that's it. I also remember that when my legs are too high I can NOT come and quite frankly I don't want to have sex in this position and not be able to come, it would defeat the purpose. So, instead of meeting up with him, I have been kind of pushing him away and not seeing him anymore, even though it's been hurting to push him away like this, I just think it might be deal-breaker (is it though? I hope not!), and I am putting off telling him the news.
I don't know if getting involved with someone who wants something drasticly different than I do sexually is a good idea, considering this is one of the biggest reasons you're with each other, you know? I am gaging that this might(?) be a deal-breaker because he will not be happy when he finds out I do not want to do this because I can't come this way. I don't like having my legs up that far, I don't enjoy it. I enjoy something totally different, with my legs underneath his, missionary-style. So, anyways, now I don't know what to do, any ideas?

There's a very easy answer to your problem - it's called compromise. You could start with missionary (you have your orgasms) and then finish with your legs high for him.
But I will tell you one thing. If you are going to restrict repertiore to one position, any guy is going to get bored real quick.
You asked him what his "favourite" position is and you got your answer....but be aware that he will want a variety of positions - not just the high legs one. If you look after his needs, he'll quite happily have missionary with you, just as he'll want you to be on top or have doggy now and then. Or standing between your legs. Or the dining room table. Or that strange thing involving flippers and a wetsuit.
A good sexual relationship is all about give and take.
As Aisha said, compromise.
Why do you think that you have to restrict yourself to one position? I think that most people use a couple or several different positions just during ONE session of making love. That's what sex is about, getting the most pleasure out of it for BOTH people and compromising and varying things so that both are happy.
Solution to your problem? Do what everyone-else does - use a couple of positions. Use missionary until you are satisfied or have your orgasm, then swap to whatever position (which may or may not be this legs-in-the-air thing at that moment in time) that he wants to use to finish him off. Who knows? His favourite right then might be missionary too, or doggie style, or woman on top?
Just because he has a favourite doesn't mean that he wants to use it all the time. Talking about this position all the time may well just be his way of trying to broach the subject of sex, any sex.