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Weird Situation.
| Mon, 07-11-2005 - 8:06pm |
Ok I need some help and adivse on a situation that has come up .....
I started dating this guy Jay. (first guy i've dated that had a child i have two). His son was what first attracted me to him then everything fell into place. AFter 5 or little more months. I knew i really cared for him. Then he broke it off. We kept in touch. and Then I started comparing men to him. I compared EVERY man i came into contact with him.. Even men i was dating. And so I finally desided to be single. This whole time trying to basically persuade my way back into this mans bed. not nessicarily his heart, but eventuall. well after a couple months of us chatting about having an affraid JAy called and we started talking for a couple days then he came over. He is with this girl, i dont' know her. well he says that he cares for her but he wants to mess around. He came by last night and i gave him oral. Then he left. I'm not sure what to do i'm not sure how i feel i want him i seriously crave this man. He purposed that he kept seeing the girl and us just do our thing. Should i be his mistress as he called it and let it unfold to se what happens and maybe i do get back into his heart or what.. PLEASE HELP ME
I started dating this guy Jay. (first guy i've dated that had a child i have two). His son was what first attracted me to him then everything fell into place. AFter 5 or little more months. I knew i really cared for him. Then he broke it off. We kept in touch. and Then I started comparing men to him. I compared EVERY man i came into contact with him.. Even men i was dating. And so I finally desided to be single. This whole time trying to basically persuade my way back into this mans bed. not nessicarily his heart, but eventuall. well after a couple months of us chatting about having an affraid JAy called and we started talking for a couple days then he came over. He is with this girl, i dont' know her. well he says that he cares for her but he wants to mess around. He came by last night and i gave him oral. Then he left. I'm not sure what to do i'm not sure how i feel i want him i seriously crave this man. He purposed that he kept seeing the girl and us just do our thing. Should i be his mistress as he called it and let it unfold to se what happens and maybe i do get back into his heart or what.. PLEASE HELP ME

He's seeing someone else, but he wants sex with you? And you're willing? WHY? He's seeing someone else......which means he doesn't want to see you, he just wants to USE you.
So, he's a liar and a cheater. Just remember, if he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you. You think that "sex" is going to make him want to be with you.....not in a million years. He's getting sex from the other one, AND from you.....he's using BOTH of you. What would serve him right is for BOTH of you to dump him, and let him take care of himself.
I'm with the others. I know that you care for this guy and really like him, but he's not returning those feelings. He doesn't care for you and he obviously doesn't REALLY like you if you are only good enough for sex. And even then, it's not loving sex, it's a quick release. He has about as much feelings for you as he does for his right hand. The one he uses to masturbate with.
As tough as it is going to be, I'd get rid of him. He's already dated you and he knows you well. If there was ever going to be a relationship with this guy again, it would have happened already. You will find that you are his mistress, getting nothing more from him, until Hell freezes over or until he finally dumps you.