Well, we talked

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Registered: 03-26-2004
Well, we talked
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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 10:25am

I talked to my DH last night. And, he basically said, he just hates to do it, that, it wasnt me, he just doesnt like it, that it does nothing for him. He did say he would make more of a "manual" effort, and, I even got some oral last night (not without some serious talking into, but, he did it none the less). He also said the reason his sex drive is down is because I am pregnant. He said he just doesnt feel right having sex with me, he feels more comfortable just holding me. Not that he isnt attracted to me, just thinks too much about his daughter inside.


Here is to things getting better after baby!


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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 12:42pm
That's good you talked to him. Even if he doesn't like to do it to you and doesn't get anything out of it for himself, he should want to please YOU! But I agree with you, oral sex and pregnancy didn't mix well for me either. In fact, that all stopped after around 5-6 months. But you can always keep talking to him about it and telling him you need it in the meantime.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 2:19pm
Thinking about your daughter inside of you, is he afraid of hurting the baby or something along those lines?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 12:28pm
Have you tried explaining that cunnilingus ISN'T about HIM? It's about making YOU feel good. Just as fellatio is about making HIM feel good.

Most women get nothing out of performing orally on their partners, at first either, but the more you do it, the more you enjoy giving so much pleasure. I hope your DH will continue to make your feelings and desires a priority.