What about anal sex?

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Registered: 07-20-2004
What about anal sex?
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Mon, 07-26-2004 - 3:32pm
My guy wants to try anal sex but I'm a little scared to try that. I've always been open to try almost everything except that but I want to fulfill his desires. I'm just wondering if it's a risk i'm taking in having anal sex. Can someone help me in some info about the pros and cons of anal sex??
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 3:46pm
Here's some info:

http://www.sexuality.org/l/incoming/analrule.html

Personally, I'm not a big fan of it. I think what I like most about it is the kink factor. For me it feels intense, but not good or bad. It is my understanding that if not done correctly it can do some serious damage, including ripping of the internal tissue which may lead to infection and more commonly hemerroids (sp?).

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Mon, 07-26-2004 - 4:02pm
Bettyjane, you don't have to do this unless and until YOU feel a desire to "go there." If you're only doing it to "fulfill his desires" though, then that's the wrong reason. IF it's painful or unpleasant for you, but he enjoys it, then what? Will you continue to do it anyway?

I think you ought to wait until you've given it more thought and research it a bit more to put your fears to rest and THEN reconsider it. But any sexual act should be mutually desired and anticipated by BOTH of you. IF you're nervous and skeptical during THIS act, it could cause pain and damage.

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 4:45pm
I agree with the others, if you don't want to try then don't. I personally really like it, but it's not for everyone. You need to be relaxed and into it to enjoy it, and if you are scared of being hurt and are not even sure you really want to do it then I doubt you will be able to relax enough to even be comfortable much less enjoy it. Here are few of my personal pro's and cons of it:

Pros

Feels good

Intensifies orgasm

Adds a new act that we can switch things up with to avoid boredom

Cons

Can be uncomfortbale if I get too over eager and get too vigorous too quick

Lots of farting for a few minutes afterward due to air being pushed in

Need to do more clean up then we would after regular sex

Leticia

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 4:55pm
Most men have a desire to try it at least once. Most women don't like it. It's dirty and messy, and if not done right, it's painful.

If you're not interested, say no. He'll live.

I've tried it, and it's something I could live without.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 5:04pm
So interesting. I like sex so much and it has been so rewarding for me. But I have no wish whatsoever to try anal, I really don't.