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What can I do?
| Wed, 07-14-2004 - 4:50pm |
I have been dating my boyfriend for a few months now and we have just recently begun to become sexually involved. I want to wait to have intercourse, however I am enjoying oral sex w/ him very much. The problem is that I can't make him climax when giving him oral sex. I feel bad b/c he has given me multiple orgasms and I want to give him one. I have never had this problem w/ other guys,so I know it's not my technique. He said that he had only climaxed one time EVER while getting oral sex!..Does anyone have any suggestions..I'm getting frustrated

There are MANY guys who can't finish during oral sex. Why, who knows? Probably some childhood hang up about it being dirty and nasty! Also, this is a very new relationship, and maybe eventually he'll get comfortable enough with you to allow it to happen.
In the meantime, he's STILL enjoying what you're doing, and your frustration is only adding to his. Lighten up on him, let him enjoy, and when you're tired, quit. You can finish him by hand, or he can do it himself.
Others have said this, but I will repeat it: Some men just don't orgasm from oral...don't worry about it. Sex is not about how many orgasms the two of you have. It's not a competition. Enjoy the intimacy of what you are doing and know that whether he orgasms or not, he is enjoying your attentions.
Peace.
Scott.