what can i do to fix this

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Registered: 11-15-2007
what can i do to fix this
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Tue, 03-11-2008 - 4:20pm

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 9:50pm

Welcome to the board, unsure_in_love.

It's not uncommon to go through phases in your sex life where it doesn't seem as good as it has been, or as good as it could be. The fact that you want it to be better is a huge step in the right direction.

Since you think your BF has lost interest, I think it's a good idea to look at what might be causing that. Besides a routine sex life, things like stress or medical problems can cause him to loose interest too. If he doesn't seem unhappy in the relationship in other areas, it might be a good idea to suggest he talk to his doctor. The doctor can rule out any medical problems that might exist.

Here are a couple of articles that might give you some ideas to spice things up:

Where Did Our Sex Life Go?
http://www.redbookmag.com/love/where-did-ll

5 Bedroom Games to Rev Up Your Sex Life
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,91kl3xx2,00.html?nlcid=ls|06-14-2007|

Make Him Crave You
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/whathewants/0,,hp6c,00.html

3 Ways to Unleash Your Inner Hottie
http://love.ivillage.com/lnm/lnmgetcloser/0,,s2b3,00.html

10 Sex it Up Essentials
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,rfjn-1,00.html

Revive Your Sex Drive: How to Handle 10 Top Libido Killers
Take your passion off the back burner
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/sxarousal/0,,9bp87snw,00.html

Better Sex, Easy as 1-2-3: 20 Tips Every Couple Should Know
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,drruth_r9s4,00.html

I know that's a lot of reading, but I think you'll be able to find some things that are out of the norm for your relationship. Sometimes just a small step, like having sex somewhere other than the bedroom, can go a long way to reigniting the spark.