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| Tue, 02-14-2006 - 11:56pm |
One of my good guy friends and I have decided to be "friends w/ benefits with strings attached." By strings attached I mean neither of us want to have intercourse or anal sex. We are only giving each other hand jobs or should I say trying to give each other hand jobs. I gave him one and he was hard but never was able to cum. The same happened when he gives me hand jobs in that I don't cum either.
We both 19 and this is each of ours first experience with sex of any type. I have masturbated and been able to cum and I am not sure about him though I am sure he has.
If anyone knows how to make the experience better. I do know it takes practice because of the posts that I have read. So again if anyone has any ideas with things that I could try that would be great and beforehand thank you to all those who help:)

Sounds to me like its just a matter of some time, practice and relaxation. Masturbation is tricky to copy in that you can stimulate yourself with exactly the right motion when you want it. Since the other person isn't a mind reader they don't know when and how to touch you the same way. They have to learn what you like and you likewise have to learn to enjoy the slightly different stimulation that you're getting.
Nerves could be another reason. Being new to this its no great surprise that neither of you came either. Takes time to relax and "let go" with a new partner too.
Hints or tips? Get some lube. Some KY Liquid or Astroglide or something waterbased. Lots of fun for both of you ;-)
Well, doesn't "strings attached" normally mean that there are emotional expectations of one another?
But if you guys don't have a strong sexual attraction, then hand jobs will likely never get better or be very satisfying for either of you.
As the other poster commented though...practice usually does the trick.
Thank you again for those of you that posted your suggestions!!
I know we both have to relax and get rid of the distractions because I know I was tense and so was he and the next won't be the first time cause that already happened.