What to do?

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Registered: 09-22-2004
What to do?
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Sat, 10-29-2005 - 5:52pm
What should I do? I am currently involved with a girl I do like alot and we have fooled around numerous times. I would like to give her oral sex and have tried once already but found that I can not stomach the taste. I tried as much as I could but actually dry heaved.....lol. Luckily it was quiet so she didnt notice. Its not like she's unhygeinic or anything. Is there any advise out there???
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Registered: 08-12-2002
In reply to: flyguy2004
Sun, 10-30-2005 - 7:19pm

A couple of reasons she might not "scrub" down there is the fact she may be prone to thrush, or she may just be really sensitive to soap in that area. Soap can dry out and irritate the area quite easily.

It may also be that she's not that comfortable touching herself in that area?

 


 


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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: flyguy2004
Sun, 10-30-2005 - 7:53pm

>>I think for many out there, it really is a matter of getting accustomed to it over time and repeated attempts <<

ditto my feelings about it. Diving in the first time is almost guranteed bad results. Gradual and repeated "exposure" is invariably the best way.

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Registered: 09-22-2004
In reply to: flyguy2004
Mon, 10-31-2005 - 7:33pm
I am not trying to be critical of her at all. I just dont know what it is that I can do to make that area more oral friendly because I CANNOT STOMACH IT! It was a shot in the dark about wondering if she should "scrub hard down there". I have no idea because I DONT HAVE FEMALE PARTS!!! I am looking to make the girl happy but if I cant stomach it I CANT
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: flyguy2004
Mon, 10-31-2005 - 7:57pm
Well, GEEZE, fly, calm down. Nothing's worse than doing something that your partner knows you don't want to do for her! Maybe you need to figure out why you feel this way about this partner.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: flyguy2004
Mon, 10-31-2005 - 9:01pm

First of all. Relax a little. This isn't the end of the world, you know?

As I was saying originally, IIRC, I think that it's more about getting used to it. If you dive on in, then you are surround by this new and unusual aroma and taste. The whole thing can be a bit overwhelming and your senses revolt.

If you ease your way in from the edges towards the centre you are giving yourself time to adjust. The "overpowering" smell and taste isn't so bad after all. It's a bit like drinking beer. Beer has a pretty funny flavour when you think about it. Get a kid that's never tasted beer before to chug a jug and I guarantee that they'll a)hate it and b) barf. However, I haven't met a guy yet that can't fully appreciate the beautiful taste and aroma of a beer yet once they've had time to get used to it.

As for scrubbing down there, yeah, you're right. You weren't to know that it's very sensitive but I would have thought that you'd have had an inkling that it might be reasonably sensitive.

Another advantage of easing on in is that your saliva "dilutes" (for want of a better word) what lubrication there already is - so the flavour isn't as strong when you do finally dive in.

As the others have said, try soaping her up in the shower once or twice and see if that makes a difference. You could try bringing it up in conversation once or twice too - mention how you like going down but you prefer if a girl is fresh from the shower and washed before you try it because you find that your taste is pretty sensitive and you find it a little bit too strong under normal circumstances - sensitive taste or something. You could then mention something about a long day and how we ALL get a bit sweaty and need freshening up. Be careful with this. You just want her to appreciate that you like her well washed. So stay low-key and casual about it. You don't want her to think that you think she smells or anything. You'll be lucky to get any sex if that happens.

Finally, if it really does smell *bad* there is a SLIM chance that she has had an infection like thrush. It's possible. She'll need some medication to clear that up though and most women have a pretty good idea that something is wrong if they have thrush.

Keep at it. Good luck. You'll more than likely get there. But at the end of the day you don't, well, that's it. You can't do what you can't do.

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Registered: 05-27-2005
In reply to: flyguy2004
Tue, 11-01-2005 - 10:48am
I have a feeling this is your first time trying to go down on a girl... you've never done it before. Is it so?
If it so, then yes.... the feelings you're having are natural... the more you do it, as everyone mentioned ease into it... the more you will grow accostomed to it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: flyguy2004
Tue, 11-01-2005 - 5:22pm
I agree...just as it feels VERY unnatural for a woman to put a man's penis in her mouth, the first time, it will likely feel the same way to you to lick a woman's genitalia. But your perception will change with experience and practice.
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Registered: 10-20-2005
In reply to: flyguy2004
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 3:30pm
Have you maybe just kinda hinted around asking her what her preference is in the bedroom?
As a woman, its really not that big of a deal for my boyfriend to go down on me. There are alot of other things that turn me on even more, I prefer to be fingered more than anything. I would talk to her like you are trying to find out what she likes in bed so you can please her. just a thought!
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Registered: 09-22-2004
In reply to: flyguy2004
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 11:30am
Regarding the possibility that she is not comfortable touching herself in that area is a thought that has come to my mind also. But that seems absolutely crazy in my mind! How can that be? I mean, its her body? If you cant be comfortable with your own body then how can you be comfortable with someone else touching it? I really dont know what to make of that if it is the case.
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Registered: 09-22-2004
In reply to: flyguy2004
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 11:33am
Its not that I dont wnat to do it for her. I initialted it the first time actually and posed this question to try to figure a way to go for it again with better results. I just know that I cannot do it if my stomach isnt into it and i'm gonna dry heave again. Thats not hot