what to do to him down there?

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what to do to him down there?
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Tue, 08-10-2004 - 10:35am
I have recently started seeing this great guy. He is much more sexually experienced than I am (considering I am not). He has taken it upon him self to masterbate me a couple times now never pressuring me, but I cannot seem to orgasm which makes him keep working away at it. The thing is that I'd like to do somethign nice for him liek oral sex. Thing is I never have before and as much as I have read up on it I have a silly basic question, does he have to be erect first? I realized the other night as I was starting to take off his pants that I did't knwo what to do . So could someone please let me know for future refernce. Thank you.
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Registered: 11-15-2003
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 10:40am
Dear QUeen,

No, he doesn't have to be erect to start with...in fact it's a good way to get him there. If you want to know how to please him orally ask him. I'm sure that he would more than happy to tell you how to please him.

Good luck (He should feel very fortunate to have someone so interested in pleasing him.)

Peace.

Scott.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 5:36pm
No he doesn't have to be erect. As Scott said, it's a nice way to get him there. I think that you'll find it quite interesting to see how it grows and becomes erect too.

Have fun and don't take it too seriously or worry about what you're doing too much. If you're not sure, ask your b/f what you should do. Most guys love being with a woman that is open to suggestions and willing during sex.
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Registered: 12-01-2003
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 7:11pm
well i was in the same clueless stage when i was interested in doing oral for the first time with my first serious bf....what i did was a simple internet search on how to give oral sex. it helped me be more comfortable having the ideas of what i could do in my head...and i was able to surprise him with being knowledgable about what to do and what felt good since he knew i never done it before...and when he asked how i knew what to do, i told him that i did research. He was so shocked and impressed that i did that to please him.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 9:07pm

No he does not have to be erect for you to give him oral.


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Registered: 05-18-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 9:08pm
That's a good idea. Lots of sites have techniques, and then you two can try then out and see what you like and what you don't. There are some that made no sense to me, some butterfly thing with your tongue. Wasn't sure what they meant. If he has had oral before he can show you a few things too. I wouldn't worry too much about it, oral is pretty easy to get good at quickly.

Leticia

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 9:37pm
Hi queen!

I agree with what the others have said and I definitely congratulate you on having such a "please each other" kind of relationship! :)

This website is EXCELLENT for learning oral techniques along with Tish's other page as well:

Going Down Further

http://pages.ivillage.com/midniterambler2002/goingdownfurther/

Going Down

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-csgoingdown

Keep asking him what he likes, how he likes it...commonly reported around here that it adds that much more fun too, ensures he gets what he wants. Just my two cents. My wife actually uses flavoured oils and syrups many times, and YES I love to use the kiwi flavors on her too! Works both ways, right? LOL!! ;P

C h a r a c t e r


above all else


Mr. Para

 

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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 11:18am
well i did it, i went down there the other night. but i arrived at a problem i didn't make him come. i asked him for tips if he coudl spare some and he was real good about it and i had done alot of research on the subject but i tried everythingi knew and what he told me and nothing. i was down there for awhile, but i don't know how long it's supposed to take. any tips?
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 1:30pm
It may have just been nerves, because this as the first time for you and he was teaching you what felt good. What works for my DH is to do lots of licking up and down the shaft mixed up with some sucking on the head of the penis, I look into his eyes from time to time, and get him worked up that way so when I really start sucking it doesn't take long. Since I do most of the work by licking and don't suck really vigorously until the end, BJ's can last as long as he likes. Did you move your hand while giving him oral? I grab the bottom of his shaft, and move my hand in sync with my mouth. As he gets closer to orgasm, I grip him more firmly.

Leticia

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 9:05pm
It's not an uncommon problem. Plenty of guys can't cum from oral. Either it's nerves making him hold back a little, or he just can't get quite the exact right stimulation. Guys usually have a very specific way or stimulating themselves when masturbating that you can't easily duplicate with a BJ. Don't worry though. I bet that he really, really enjoyed it though. Keep practicing.

You might want to figure out whether you want him to cum in your mouth or if you'll just let him squirt into you hand or on your chest or something now. The warm gooey squirt in your mouth can take some getting used to if your not sure what to expect.