What do I do???

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Registered: 01-26-2006
What do I do???
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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 1:40pm

Ok, I'm pissed off right now...

I've been dating a guy I really like for a couple months now. We dont see each other that often (maybe three or four times a month) because he travels a lot, so we've only slept together once. However, we're both really forward about talking about sex and I know we both REALLY want it again.

So, he'd planned to stay at my place Sunday night when, out of nowhere, my period comes almost a week earlier than I'd expected. What the hell do I do?? I don't want him to think that I don't want to sleep with him, because obviously I do, but is it to early to be totally honest with him (I don't want to gross him out, haha)? I still want him to stay anyway, and he probably would too, since we just enjoy each other's company, but I don't want him to expect something that may not happen. I would be fine with sleeping together anyway, but obviously that's not really up to me...what now??

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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: cml7721
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 1:54pm

Unless he's 12 years old, he knows women have periods. Why should it "gross him out"? And, there are many people that it doesn't bother, and many people who have sex, even oral, during a woman's period.

You can also get "instead"....which is a cup that holds the blood at the cerix, and you won't be bleeding.

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Registered: 10-23-2003
In reply to: cml7721
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 2:12pm

I don't see where thats a problem at all. I just have trouble with understanding why you want to spend the night with him and are unable to talk about your period. Tell you honestly. It happens. All the time. Just talk to him about it. Be honest. Tell him how horney you are but unfortunately your period has started. Let him take if from there. You'd be surprised to know how many girls are horney just before there period and it sneaks up on them.

I know my gf will feel really horney and half an hour after we have sex she announces "Oh oh. guess what you started?". That shouldn't ruin the rest of the night.
Jim

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: cml7721
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 2:15pm

What do you mean it's too early to be totally honest with him about you getting your period?


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Registered: 08-11-2004
In reply to: cml7721
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 3:28pm
One comment on the Instead cup. I've used it for having sex without a mess while on my period, and it's fabulous. The thing to remember though, the instructions will say you can go something like 8-12 hours with it depending on how heavy you're bleeding. If you're going to have sex though, you need to put a fresh one in just before. Otherwise it'll get bumped and there could end up being a lot of blood since it collects in the cup for several hours.
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Registered: 08-25-2006
In reply to: cml7721
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 7:28pm
I think he would be a lot more offended by no explanation as to why you aren't following through with your plans, then hearing that you have your period. Be honest with him, he'll appreciate it!