what do men think of vibrators?

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what do men think of vibrators?
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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 1:40am
my BF of 3 months and i were taking a little compatibility quiz the other day, just for fun... there was a question in it about sex toys, and he made a comment about how it would make him uncomfortable if i had a vibrator. it surprised me, actually, because he's quite enthusiastic about the fact that i masturbate (he LOVES to watch), but he said a vibrator is different because that's not a sensation a man can duplicate. he's also very much opposed to a couple using a vibrator together during sex and doesn't understand why anyone would want to do that.

what do you guys think? is that how most guys feel, or is he being "unenlightened"?

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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 7:31am

I don't know about most guys.


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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 7:53am
I don't have a problem with vibes either. Maybe mossdona's guy was just trying to mess up the results of the quiz. Either that or he takes jokes about vibes too seriously. For example: why did God create men? Because vibrators can't mow the lawn.
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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 7:56am
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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 8:35am
The only time I would be concerned about the use of a vibe by the DW is if we werent having much sex, but she was using the vibe alot....lol I like using them on my DW...Sometimes more than one at once. Its fun to work the controls of the rabbit..kinda of like a mini torture..lol
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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 8:50am
Yes, I agree with you.

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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 12:42pm
"It sounds like your b/f friend is afraid you will get more enjoyment from the vibe than from him."

yeah, we had a long conversation about it. what you said is definitely part of it. he can be a little competitive like that - like he wants the orgasms he gives me to be "better" than any other orgasms i can have... it also seems like he's opposed to the idea of introducing "technology" into the bedroom. he's kind of anti-gadgets in general, unlike most men i guess. he doesn't even own a tv!

my main problem is that he's never had a girlfriend who had one (at least, not who told him she had one) and he's never tried it himself with a partner - so then how can he have such a strong negative opinion? that's called prejudice! i feel like i should buy one and experiment with it a little, just so he can see that it's not a threat at all. but he thinks that's "passive aggressive" of me.

oh well. our first little disagreement. so much for compatibility quizzes... ;)

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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 1:10pm
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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 1:43pm
I'm competitive too but within myself. I strive to to the best and better, however I'm never disappointed and have little expectations. Sometimes I'm so into his body that I ravage it and he submits. Afterwards, he'll say "That was incredible, and probably the best orgasm I've ever had." I say it too, when I mean it. There's really nothing to compete with, we both accept that sometimes it works, and others is doesn't, but I still want to strive to help him have the best orgasm ever, when I want it bad enough. I don't compete with anyone but me.
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Fri, 09-24-2004 - 8:59pm
Many men just simply view sex toys or sex toys, especially vibrators, the very same way that many women view men looking at porn. It really does make some of us people, men and women, feel inadequate, or feel that there is a interest in pleasure than us ourselves.

Personally, I think thats a very natural feeling that some simply have less and others simply have a lot more, but we all have it one way or another. Again, just my personal thoughts, not law. :)

I myself have tried convincing the Mrs. here to get one, because sometimes I'm literally just not "up" to it, but would love for her to be pleased without waiting for my tired body to get back to normal. Now I'm not sure if its simply embarrassment or if she really wants the real thing that bad, lol, but I don't bother her about...at least she knows I really don't mind though.

What "I" think about the vibrator is quite elementary: Its a tool that could provide a different kind of pleasure for her that I don't believe I can copy, so if she feels that its something she might enjoy, then why WOULDN'T I help her enjoy that?, especially if I'm actively helping her myself.

Different views here and there. :)

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Sat, 09-25-2004 - 8:52pm
My dh loves vibrators. He is usually the one that suggests bringing it out. I don't know why he likes using it on me so much but he does. I will have to ask him now that you brought it up. lol

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