what do u do when loved one's away?

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what do u do when loved one's away?
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Tue, 05-23-2006 - 2:07pm

I'm in a long distance relationship and thought about posting on that board, but since it's a sex question, I thought I'd try here. So to repeat my question, for those of you who enjoy healthy, vibrant sex lives with your significant others, what do you when he/she goes away for long periods of time? My boyfriend and I face ten to fourteen day separations so you can imagine by the time a visit rolls around, I'm ready to spring on him. But until then, in the last days coming up to a visit, it gets absolutely excruciating.

I find that since I've begun this relationship I pleasure myself a lot more, to make up for his absences. And the longer we're together as a couple, the harder the separations get. I thought it would get easier, but it's just the opposite. It's not just the physical aspect of the relationship I miss, of course, but by the second week or so, I feel so run down and irritable even from the lack of contact with my boyfriend.

What do others do in the physical absence of their loved ones? Just wondering. Any suggestions on getting through the long dry spells? By the way, he's visiting tomorrow!!

Thanks.

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Tue, 05-23-2006 - 2:29pm

Let's see.... I have the closest 3 toy stores already mapped out and know at least 2 ways of getting to each one. My best advice is to have him go with you to the toy store and help you find some that will help you when he isn't around (if you are comfortable with that). We

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Tue, 05-23-2006 - 4:29pm

Years ago, my DH used to be away for 2 weeks out of every month. So, how did I handle it?I stayed very active physically & socially.

I exercise regularly but when the DH is away for a period of time, it allows me more time to do more of it, spend quality time with friends, family and to pursue my own interests.

And oh yes, I take care of my own sexual needs, too. Think of it as "battery charging" time instead of deprivation time. If you change the outlook, it can often change how well you handle it.




Edited 5/23/2006 4:32 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 1:29am

>>Think of it as "battery charging" time<<

And there I was thinking that the batteries would be drained while he was away and only put back on the charger on the bedside table when he got home! LOL!

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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 8:07am

Well for starters just be grateful that your seperations only last 2 weeks! lol. When my fiance and I lived apart, we lived in different countries and saw each other maybe once every 2-3 months and only for about a week or two.

Two words: Phone. Sex.

If that's not an option for some reason then the only thing left to do is keep doing it on your own. And personally, I loved the sexual tension and build of having to wait so long to have sex with him... the release so much more satisfying then if you can do it everyday. Even now that we live together, I like to abstain from sex for at least a few days to a week because I love the build up and release.

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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 10:03am
LOL! But I was talking about HER batteries though, not it's!