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| Wed, 06-16-2004 - 10:25am |
She was shocked that he didnt "do her" back and that what he said to her kind of made her feel cheap and sort of used. She ended up watching tv for a while and went to sleep. She said that she was really upset because he has never done anything like this in the past and she doesnt know why he was being so inconsiderate of her feelings and needs. She hasnt yet spoken to him about it as he leaves for work very early(before she gets up).
I really didnt know what to say to her, I mean I do think he should have done the same for her (as she said he usually does). I guess if I were in her situation I would be hurt that his needs were satisfied and mine were completely overlooked and not cared about.
What do you think of this? What should I say to her? We have a lunch date today and I know she will bring this up. We talk about everything, we are very close and I dont want to make it worse for her by saying the wrong things.
Thanks in advance, Toots

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I think thats another reason why my friend is so upset not because he didnt give back to her but because maybe he didnt want to. I think id be upset too.
Leticia
I am not saying she doesn't have a right to be upset because people can feel however they want to what I am saying is I don't think it is worth bringing up because one, it is more than likely not that he didn't want to please her it could just be because he was tired or something else completely not related to her, two, it sounds like she did not clearly communicate she wanted it to be her turn, three, there is another issue that could be clouding her judgement (the thank you) and causing her to feel angry therefore she could just be displacing her anger to his non reciprocation, and four, this is not a regularly occuring issue.
>>as for him hurting her feelings about how he spoke to her afterward they should talk about it.<<
What? He THANKED her, KISSED her, and told her HE LOVED HER. What more does she want? How about she apologize to him for being so immature? Geez, he showed alot of appreciation for what she did, and she's getting bent because SHE ddin't speak up.
Leticia
No, I don't think so. it sounds like it's not what he said, but how *she* took it. I'm trying to imagine how what he said could possibly be said in a negative way.
Leticia
Toots
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