What do you think about during sex ?

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What do you think about during sex ?
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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 9:34pm
I am curious if any women out there fantisize about an ex-lover(s) while having sex with your DH? Perhaps a great sexual experience from the past that you once had? If so, please describe ... What makes that experience so memorable and what would your DH think if he knew?


Edited 8/4/2005 9:36 pm ET ET by canbfun73

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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:17pm
Do I fantasize about an ex? Ewww no way. My exes are exes because I don't want to be with them anymore.
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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:30pm
Never thought of an ex while with dh. I have fantasized that people are watching us but that's rare. I'm mostly really into and thinking of how good everything feels to be fantasizing! LOL!
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Registered: 06-19-2005
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 11:43pm
I do not think about anybody else during sex....why....it would dimish the bond between dh and I. If I wanted to have sex with someone else I would not have married my dh therefore no reason to think about an ex or anybody else. To me that is just like cheating on my dh. But, thats just me.
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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 12:14am
Who can think during sex? All I can do is enjoy and dwell on every sensation.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 9:00am

I don't fantasize about anything during sex with Dh.


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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:11am
Well, I guess I am going to break the pattern of responses so far. I am not married, so don't have a DH to think about. However, while I find that I have no trouble concentrating on my partner for the first episode of lovemaking, when we go at it subsequently, my mind does start to stray. Elaine
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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 11:45am
I think about what I'm doing and feeling. I don't need to fantasize about someone else. And besides, it's been so long since I had any experiences with another man, I couldn't remember them anyway! LOL!


Edited 8/5/2005 11:46 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 12:38pm
I have never fantasized about being with anyone else during sex with DH. For the most part I'm into the reality of what's going on. I will however, fantasize(if you want to call it that), by recalling something that just happened. In other words, if I just finished giving DH oral, and he's now giving me oral, I will "think" about what I just saw, felt, heard, smelled, and tasted....sort of like being in two places at once. DH does it too, but for some reason he's more verbal about it. If he just performed oral and I'm now giving him oral, he will "describe" what he just experienced to me(I guess that's his way of visualizing it). That's about it for me. I don't see the point in fantasizing about someone else while with somebody else. DH turns me on...fully. ;-)
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Sat, 08-06-2005 - 9:28am

I am thinking about: 1) how good it feels, 2) what are we going to do next?, 3) how good it feels, 4) how much I care about the person I'm with, 5) how good it feels!

As the others said, if I have to fantasize about someone else, then I guess I'm not with the right person.

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Registered: 04-25-2005
Sat, 08-06-2005 - 5:44pm
nope. cant say ive thought about my ex wile having sex with my SO. before my SO and I got back together I had random sex one night with this guy ( yes used protection ) and i thought about my ex ( now bf again ). all i could think about was how good my ex was and knew what i liked. the person was a horrible kisser .. almost swallowed my face and i thought i was kissing my dog .. and i started laughing. lol. but with my SO .. no i dont think about my other ex.

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