What Does HE Want??

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Registered: 02-24-2005
What Does HE Want??
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 10:53pm

I know your all going to tell me to ASK HIM! My B/F wants me to figure out on my own what he likes and wants me to do to him. He wants me to bring something new to the table (bed) an idea other than what we've been doing, all his ideas of course. We use a vibrator, 69 alot, oral sex, blow jobs, doggie style, me on top, him on top.

What can I do to spice things up in the bedroom?? What do men like done to them? I don't know what to do.

Please help me with some idea's that you men like?? Or Ladies can you give me some tips on how to make him beg for more????

Sun

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 11:23pm

So, he wants you to figure it out on your own? NICE guy! That tells me that HE doesn't know what he wants! So, he's putting the responsibility on you. I suppose that means that if you don't come up with something, and he's "bored", it'll be your fault? I'd have to tell him that if he couldn't help me out he's out of luck.

That's a very strange attitude, and I wouldn't even try to deal with it.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 11:50pm

Sorry GTB, I disagree. While I *don't* like his choice of wording, I'm wondering if this is his way to trying to make the O/P more assertive in bed. Perhaps the list of what they already do is what he has initiated, and he'd like her to come up with some ideas.

To the O/P: why don't you get a copy of the Karma Sutra - or look it up online? It gives loads of ideas for different positions. You could also try a bit of light bondage or roll playing

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 1:37am

Does he surprise you with new ideas? IF not, then I agree that he's making this more difficult than it needs to be. But if he is shouldering most of the "burden" of keeping things creative and fresh in the bedroom, then it IS time for you to bring something new to the table and surprise HIM for awhile.

Have you thought of stimulating his prostate either internally or externally? Maybe that's what he's REALLY hinting for but is afraid to come right out and ask for it.

Lube your finger up one night and slip it in there during fellatio or manual stimulation and see how he reacts. MOST men really enjoy it and it can produce some powerful orgasms.

OR if he's squeamish about that, then try stimulating his perineum, the small space between his scrotum and anus. IF you use your thumb there and press firmly, you feel it react with his arousal.

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Registered: 09-02-2004
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 10:29am

Well Sun, I'm gonna say that there could be a couple reasons why he wants YOU to figure it out - it is quite possible that he himself doesn't know what he wants. Is he very experienced?

It is also possible as another poster said, that he might want you to be the dominant one.

And it is also possible that he wants something, like anal sex, that he is afraid to ask you for.

But, here's some things you can do that you didn't list:
Talk dirty
Rent/watch a porno
Masturbate for him
Do a strip tease
Anal sex
Tell stories/talk about fantasies while you have sex
Tie him up with some silk neckties (or have him tie you up)
Do it outside somewhere (golf course, parking lot, etc.)

Hope that helps!

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Registered: 01-10-2005
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 12:35pm

Good answers so far.

I like the idea of role playing, where you act out some sort of fantasy sexual situation.

John

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Registered: 02-25-2005
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 1:04pm
I dont know what your man would like but I can tell you that my stbx went crazy when I would get on stradle of him flat footed whith my knees at my chest and hop I think they call it the frog position or something. but i can tell you he may want you to suggest things you like as well b/c my man would get totaly arroused when I was. the move I told you about was his favorite but he also got excited when we done it in odd places such as while we were driving or in the bathroom at a publc place or outside in the garage on top of the car.