what does this mean?? if anything....
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what does this mean?? if anything....
| Fri, 08-11-2006 - 3:37pm |
Sorry this is a bit lengthy. Although I am 42, I don't have a lot of experience with men. (been stuck in a sexless marriage for way too long.) Anyway, I have just started a friends w/benefits relationship with someone. We've only met up twice and haven't taken it all the way yet. My question is, we've done some pretty heavy petting & touching, where I have been very aroused and I thought he felt the same, except both times I've touched him, he is completely soft. I had thought that if a man is aroused, there should be somewhat of an erection. And since, he is the one who started or pursued this arrangement he should be getting enjoyment from it too. So I'm left thinking, is it me? or is this normal for some? He is only 35 so I wouldn't think it was a medical condition.
Any answers would be helpful...THanks
Any answers would be helpful...THanks

Are you STILL in that marriage? If so, he's probably nervous about having an affair with a married woman! Or he's just plain nervous.....as many men are the first few times with a new woman.
Or maybe he's got a problem.....and hasn't told you!
And if you're still in that marriage.....why? If you're unhappy enough about it to have an affair.....then why not just end it? Or try to fix it.
In all honesty I do not think it is a medical condition. The first question that I have for you to think about, how well do you really know him? Is he married or in a serious relationship with someone else? If you probe a bit deeper that may be the reason.
Another question to think about, the two times that you have been together what happened right before the two of you started to get imtimate? Also where were you?
With very little information it is difficult to give ideas that help. I would try to find out more about his life outside of the relationship. Also look at the things like where you are at (e.g. outside, your place, his place etc), what happens right before, and for other clues. If you can start to modify some things like location and maybe creating more of a mood then it might solve your dilemma. Anyhow the more you know the better you will be able to help him.