What happened to RESPECT?

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What happened to RESPECT?
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 11:14am

I find some posts on this board as well as other boards


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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 11:35am
***Guys, if you wanted your partner to shave, swallow or engage in anal sex and she was not comfortable with it or just didn't want to do it for her own reasons, would you be out the door???

Hey there Tish. Just me mush. I don't know about anyone else since I can only speak for myself but here goes. I was raised extremely old fashioned in the sense of giving total respect for women, ie holding doors, paying for dates, complimenting them. Just all around being a gentlemen which now a days doesn't seem to be the norm anymore. I never have based a relationship on sexual needs or desires and being happily married I never will. I just think that todays youth for the most part, remember I didn't say everyone, is caught up in the fact that sex is everything to younger generations. I mean it's everywhere you look now a days. Sex is in everything from TV to magazines to sporting events to movies. I mean look at some of the young peoples idols today. Brittany, Christina, JLO, I mean the list can go on and on! Anyways I guess in my opinion it all boils down to that core values of chivilary are not being taught as much as before and young people are being flooded more and more with the sense that sex is everything that they should strive for and if you don't get it or give it up it isn't a meaningful relationship. I hope that my opinion helps a little!

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 11:50am

Hi Tish:


I read what Mush wrote.

 

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 12:19pm

So if it's the younger generation, are we the ones to blame for it since we are the ones raising these kids?


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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 1:28pm
<<<Many younger guys are in the relationship for the SEX>>>

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 2:18pm
So far the responses have discussed what boys and young men are taught that create this kind of relationship. What about the girls? I think it is the girls that allow this. It seems to be the girls who are doning things beyond their comofort level to "keep" the guy, yes?

I think that women need to have enough self-confidence to know that if they dont want it then then should say so. They need to know that they can say no and not feel guilty. How is it that so many women/girls have learned to feel that it is there job to make their partner happy? Nobody is responsible for anothers happiness.

Now, of course I am raising two young girls and, I sure hope that they grow to be strong, confident, and independent adults, with or without a partner.

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 2:31pm
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 2:55pm
I think part of the problem is kids are out of school and trolling...At least specifically today and the posts you mentioned.

I do think that sex is generally more accepted yet not educated on. I know that when I was in highschool if you had sex it was only with a long term boyfriend and you didn't brag about it. I think now you aren't labled a "slut" unless you are stealing everyone elses boyfriend. I don't have daughters so I think I am glad. I have son's and I try to teach them respect and limit thier exposure to sex and thier time to have it. I think a lack of parental supervision allows for it to happen. At this point boys are being driven by thier hormones and girls are just trying to keep up.

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 3:11pm
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 3:28pm

***Guys, if you wanted your partner to shave, swallow or engage in anal sex and she was not comfortable with it or just didn't want to do it for her own reasons, would you be out the door???

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 3:39pm

OMG here's one of my pet peeve topics.


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