What have you learned during sex?

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Registered: 09-28-2004
What have you learned during sex?
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Wed, 11-22-2006 - 9:26am
...about your partner. During sex it's difficult to hide our true self, even if we try. So, my question is whether you ever dumped a partner just because of something they did (or didn't do) during sex? Did you ever have good or bad vibes that you might have felt before, but only during sex did you finally confirm them for sure? And has having sex ever completely changed your attitude about your partner, for better or worse?
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Wed, 11-22-2006 - 2:13pm

"My question is whether you ever dumped a partner just because of something they did (or didn't do) during sex?" Yes, I tried to divorce my 2nd DH for lack of respect and being sexually devient.
"And has having sex ever completely changed your attitude about your partner, for better or worse?" Yes, I learned that DH truely loved me so much that he withstood 6 weeks of seperation ( out of the home ) and an additional 7 months of sleeping in a spare bedroom while we worked out our differances ( that's close to 9 month's without sex!). During that time, he did not view porn, see anyone else and especially no masterbation!. Once we reconsumated our relationship, the sex has been incredible. So yes, his perserverance as well as his complete devotion during this difficult time changed my attitude for the better towards DH.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 4:50pm
No, I've never learned anything new about my partner during sex. I guess that's more likely to happen if you have sex fairly quickly with a new partner.