What i want?

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Registered: 07-28-2004
What i want?
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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 1:47pm
I have been with a fwb sisuation for quite sometime. Recently my fwb has been asking what I want to do sexual wise. And i am having the hardest time figuring out what I want and how to say it. I have never been very vocal in terms of what want. And i am not sure how to put it in words. I really have a had time letting go of myself when i'm with him. I guess that comes from me caring to for him more than he does for me. I'm afraid that if I let myself go that he will see that i have fallen for him.Please help
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 2:34pm

IF you can't let yourself go sexually, then what's the point? THIS is exactly why FWB arrangements do not work.

I think you should go ahead and be honest about your true feelings, as you will be in emotional limbo until you do. If he finds a GF or someone else for a FWB, then where does that leave you?

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 3:31pm

That's exactly why FWB's aren't good for women. Very few women can be sexually active with someone without developing feelings for them.....

If you care about him, then it's time to tell him so. If he doesn't like that, then he's gone. You don't have anything more than sex with him now...so you'll be better off to end it and move on. Find someone who DOES want a relationship. Then you'll feel free to express yourself, and it will be much better for you.

It could also work out that he has feelings for you, too! He might not be admitting it because he thinks YOU don't want a relationship. Honesty is the best policy.