What if he left to go masturbate?

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Registered: 06-25-2008
What if he left to go masturbate?
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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:33pm

I originally was going to post this in my last thread, but this is important to me and I want a thread devoted just to my question.

So basically, I was "blue-balled" last night. For you ladies who don't know what that is, it's when a man is aroused after fooling around with a woman for a bit but she doesn't release him in any way and his testicles hurt afterwards. The best I can imagine it is, imagine getting punched in the boobs, having that total combined pain concentrated in a small area between your legs, and the pain won't go away.

I've always had this problem with girls I just started dating for the first time. They're into heavy making out for an hour or two but it's "too soon" for sex and I get frustrated because I don't get any release.

The girl I was with last night just wanted to watch a movie and cuddle after we had fooled around a bit, but I was suffering from the worst testicular pain I've had in a while. It's really difficult to enjoy a woman's company when it feels like someone kicked your testicles and didn't remove their foot.

So that leads to my question. Ladies, if you were fooling around with a man but you chose not to have sex or release him in any way, would you be offended if he took 5 minutes to go into the bathroom and masturbate? If it meant sparing him of discomfort or pain so he could enjoy being around you afterwards?

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:45pm

Hi and welcome thron_maximus. Will you please fill in your profile so we can know something about you? Thanks. Stick around and jump in anytime. The people here are great!


Me, personally, I see nothing wrong with you doing that.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:48pm

First of all, I wouldn't get a guy started if I had no intention of helping him finish, but that's just me.


In the situation you described, I see nothing wrong with it.

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 2:08pm
She's 25 years old! She's a grown woman for Pete's sake!
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 2:47pm
Age is just a number!
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 5:18pm

Welcome to the board, thron_maximus.

While I don't see anything wrong with what you did, if I had been the girl with you, I wouldn't have wanted to know what you did in the bathroom. If I wasn't ready to have sex with you, then I certainly wouldn't want to know about your personal masturbation habits, kwim?

Since you said you've had this happen more than once, and it appears to be with different people, then maybe you should try masturbating before your date so you don't end up in pain. I'm sure you're interested in seeing how far the sexual activity can or will go with whoever you're dating, but maybe you could discuss that instead of getting into heavy petting or foreplay.



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Registered: 05-24-2008
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 6:09pm
If it were me I'd want my date to do it in front of me...hehehe.
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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 7:03pm
When DW an I were ramping up to the deed of IC. We got really close. The night before the first time we had IC we were nude in bed and and so wound up. I told her since having IC was going to be her call I had to do something. I was going to excuse myself and masturbate to relive the strain but instead she wanted me to masturbate on her. She suggested that I do whatever I needed but do it with her. I rubbed myself on her thigh and let loose a load on her. Later I asked her why did she let me do that to her? She told me "I looked like I needed it."
We slept together nude that night nothing further happened.
The next morning she upped the ante. She whispered in my ear "I want you to make love to me."
That's when we went all the way. Everything was on her terms. I feel I was duly rewarded for that. I am still rewarded to this day 10 years after.
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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 7:18pm

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Registered: 05-04-2008
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 7:27pm
Well I would have been curious to know why you were in the bathroom the length of time and if you told me I would not have been offended.

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Registered: 05-04-2008
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 7:39pm
Back in my early 20s I used to and a knew tons of girls who used to go so far but no IC.

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