What Men Notice When they First Meet You

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Registered: 03-31-2007
What Men Notice When they First Meet You
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Thu, 11-08-2007 - 4:07pm
From highlights to heels, guys reveal what works -- and what doesn't in this article.



Tell us, how noticeable are you?




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Registered: 09-06-2007
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 4:26pm

What do I notice first.

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 5:04pm
There was an interview with Steve Santagati in the Sunday magazine section of my local paper over the summer. He came across like every smarmy lounge lizard who thinks he's God's gift to women, and has ever tried hitting on you in a bar.

http://www.boston.com/yourlife/articles/2007/07/14/going_bad/






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Registered: 02-28-2006
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 6:09pm
While it's been a while since I've been "in the market", I've never had a particular physical characteristic that I focus on or notice first in a woman. My dating history includes tall women and short, long haired and short, large breasted and small, skinny and more heavy set. The number one thing that I would notice when I first met a woman was how she carried herself. If a woman displayed confidence, she could get my attention. If she had it going on between the ears, could carry on her half of a conversation, and had something interesting to say, then she could keep it.






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Thu, 11-08-2007 - 9:04pm
Welcome to the board, gnomeman. Thanks for joining in!



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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 9:43pm

As he said in the Boston article, he's cocky. I find guys like that interesting, and in my single days, had a rather good time messing with their heads. I didn't think the article on iVillage was as cocky, and actually found a lot of what he said there to be what I would consider good advice! Whether in work or love, "dress to impress" is often a motto, and can get you further.

"Every woman wears a dress differently. The only hard-and-fast rule is to pick a dress that accentuates your best body parts. Whether you have a gorgeous back, incredible thighs, or lovely collarbones, stock up on designs that not only fit but also highlight those attributes."

I find advice like that above to be very practical. It's something I can imagine my grandmother saying, and it's definitely something I wish more young women were taught. I see a lot of women dress in what they believe to be the hottest fashion, without regard to how it looks on her body.

I wasn't as impressed with what he said about hair, but hey, he's allowed to have his opinion too, lol.

I think the article also needs to be read in the context it was written. When in a night club, people aren't usually looking for stimulating conversation. Often, it s how you look that sets you apart from the crowd. Right, wrong or indifferent, it's true for both men looking at women, and women looking at men.





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Registered: 04-13-2007
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 9:42am
My bf, who is the last word in pig but is simultaneously an incredibly cool guy, would definitely notice your shoes.
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Registered: 10-15-2006
Sat, 11-10-2007 - 3:42pm

He came across like every smarmy lounge lizard who thinks he's God's gift to women, and has ever tried hitting on you in a bar.


Oh Steve...I used the word smarmy last week and I got called on it. It is a word!


I would categorize Steve Santagati as the foremost expert on vacant, mindless

Mrs P

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Sat, 11-10-2007 - 3:46pm
Mrs. P, I always take with a rather large grain of salt any advice that comes from someone who has apparently managed to reach our age while continuing to live in a state of prolonged adolescence, long after the rest of us have settled down with our chosen partners and entered adulthood. I would hazard a guess that most of the women who pass his test... I would not find the least bit interesting.






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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 11-10-2007 - 5:27pm

I am chuckling here, Steve. While we were out last night, we were in packed conditions of a mixed sort. Most people in this area of Florida are so laid back, very relaxed, perhaps a little overly relaxed.

Because the entertainment last night was the draw, the crowd varied a little more than normal. I noticed several single women, working their ways with the gentlemen. I started mentally labeling them as to whether or not they would pass the "Steve Santagati" list. It was quite entertaining, and served to remind me how nice it is to be at this happy stage in my life.





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Registered: 02-28-2006
Sat, 11-10-2007 - 6:32pm
LOL Misty... it is indeed nice to be at this happy stage in life.






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