what men like?

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what men like?
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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 11:56am
hi everyone, just a quickie really i was in bed with my b/f the other night when he pointed out that i dont touch him much when we are having sex or kiss him during foreplay its not that i dont want to caress him during foreplay but i dont know what to do and i dont want to look silly, he wouldnt be rude if he didnt like it but i just want to get it right the first time, so any idea as to what men enjoy?

lots of love sara

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: jmilano
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 12:20pm
Different men like different things. He's told you what he wants. Touch him. There are no "right or wrong" ways to do anything. If you're laying there like a lump, maybe he's telling you that he wants some sort of show of enthusiasm from you. Use your hands...on anything, and in any way that's comfortable for you.

Every man is different, and every man is a new learning experience. The best way to know what YOUR man likes is to ask, and ask for specific instructions, if that's what it takes.

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Registered: 11-15-2003
In reply to: jmilano
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 2:17pm
Dear Sara,

Others have said this here, and they are absolutely right: there is no specific formula for what a man wants. Just like women, each man is different. He is expressing a desire for more contact, more romance, basically more foreplay. Give that to him if you can. It's best not to think in terms of "doing it right or wrong". Those terms don't apply in lovemaking because everyone is different. Rather think in terms of what gives both of you pleasure. As someone else here has said, ask him specifically what he wants. You can do this in a fun way while making love and it can add to your enjoyment. Also, don't be afraid to ask or guide him in touching you the way that you want.

The only way that one can "lose" in lovemaking is if one doesn't play with an open heart. If the heart is open you can only become closer and closer.

Good luck.

Scott.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: jmilano
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 10:01pm
Hey Sara! My wife says been there done that, LOL!

Listen, along with what the others have said, I just wanted to add something that worked, eventually, in my marriage.

You have to WANT him! Its not about showing him that you want him, NOR is it about getting it right, and believe it or not NOR is it even about doing what HE wants you to do physically it is about just grabbing him and throwing him in whatever position you want him in and just flat out enjoying him the way YOU want.

Its about what he wants you to do emotionally and psychologically; remember, the majority of us men just drool over confidence, maturity and a woman who knows what wants. Nervousness is like having sex with your clothes on , LOL!

Hope that helps in any way. Maybe you can let us know. ;)

C h a r a c t e r


above all else


Mr. Para

 

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Registered: 08-12-2004
In reply to: jmilano
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 9:35am
Thank You Mr. Para!!!!

VERY, VERY, VERY, excellant answer!!!

I could not have come close to saying it as perfect as that. :)

That is exactly what we men want.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jmilano
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 9:46am
YEP! lol

Sharon

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: jmilano
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 1:49pm
Ahhh.......Show enthusiasm, really get

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jmilano
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:53pm
a lot of men prefer a firmer touch than a lot of women. part of it has to do with the fact that they have more body hair and a light touch runs over their hair and tickles them.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: jmilano
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 6:25pm
I hear ya, LOL! Many times I read posts by women who believe men want 99% perfection with sex techniques and how attractive they are, and then have no clue what the other 1% is ever suppose to be. LOL!

For so many of us men, its all about attitude, confidence & maturity...and then the 1% is actually the other part, LOL!

I myself was always attracted to the maturity and the confidence more than anything else, so slightly older women who posessed these qualities always had an advantage over me than the younger ones did before I met Mrs. Para. Point being, VERY many of us guys are actually not quite what many women seem to think we are. ;)

C h a r a c t e r


above all else


Mr. Para

 

C  H  A  R  A  C  T  E  R

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Registered: 08-27-2004
In reply to: jmilano
Sun, 09-05-2004 - 6:43am
This was great advice but it is not always easy especially if you are self-conscious of your body or you are just unsure of what to do to please him and your self. I have had sex with my new guy about 6 times this is only my 2nd sexual partner in my life and the 1st had a lot to be desired and I find myself very nervous. Although, he has been very understanding and guides me through. But I would like to rock his world just once because I am incredibly attracted to him. Any advice on how to work through this?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: jmilano
Sun, 09-05-2004 - 9:36am

What are you self conscious and nervous about?


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