What is Promiscuous?

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What is Promiscuous?
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Tue, 05-24-2005 - 11:08am
One of the other posters, I think Tally, brought this up and now I'm wondering. Exactly how many partners qualifies a person as promiscuous? Is it X many people in a month? Is it X many people in a year? Is it X many people in a span of a few years? What is considered promiscuous?

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 9:20pm

>>Who are we to judge another's behavior when we ourselves tend to be eccentric and lacking in morals from time to time? We are only human which makes us susceptible to failure, mistakes, lapses of judgement, and moments of idiocy. We are only human. :)<<

Absolutely!!!!

And this is exactly the point that I'm trying to make on the "cheaters and compassion" thread. Except that you succinctly summed up what I was trying to say in one paragraph LOL

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 9:09am

There is a dictionary definition:

pro·mis·cu·ous ( P ) Pronunciation Key (pr-msky-s)
adj.
1. Having casual sexual relations frequently with different partners; indiscriminate in the choice of sexual partners.
2. Lacking standards of selection; indiscriminate.

"frequently" and "indiscriminite" being key words

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 2:27pm

I hereby will act as Webster and announce that the word Promiscuous shall be wiped from the dictionaries and no longer spoken in our language! From this day forth we shall replace the word with one I have made up. Promiscuous shall be replaced with the word shampoo. Thank you.

P.S. (in case I use the word because I tend to suffer from badspellingitis) a PEDESTOOL is a PEDESTAL, only the heighth of a stool to prevent nose bleeds and yet give one a small feeling of superiority.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 3:49pm

Unfortunately, if we remove all "judgemental" words from our language, we would have to remove "intelligent", "beautiful", "talented", "artistic", and hundreds of other words, because they are all prone to someone's "judgement".

I think the generally accepted definition of "promiscuous" is a person of low moral standards (which generally equates "low self esteem" and/or "lack of self respect". Meaning they will have sex with anyone who is interested, never thinking of the consequences, such as "reputation", pregnancy or disease.

As for STD's and promiscuity, one doesn't have to be promiscuous to get STD's. I was married to a cheater, and for the 20 years I was married to him, I never looked at another man. However, over the years I was "gifted" with several STD's....from chlamydia to Syphillis. We didn't know about "safe sex" in those days, but fortunately for me, they were all curable. HIV, HPV, herpes, things like that weren't out there yet. I was young and stupid, and if I was married to the same man now, he'd have been out of my life a LOT sooner....like the first time I had to go to the doctor and be embarassed by the diagnosis. The best one was the syphillis.....I was pregnant! Not only did he and I have to be treated, so did our newborn baby, and only by the grace of God was he not affected by blindness or retardation, or any of the other things that might have happened. He is now a wonderful 47 year old grandfather, no thanks to his own father!




Edited 5/31/2005 3:51 pm ET ET by greenteabag
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 5:04pm
You're too hip to be a great grandma! See, now you make me think that my grandparents are having sex and I don't want to think about that. I'm so naive, why can't you let me be?! *LOL*
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 6:46pm

A person who doesn't consider his/her own safety or the consequences of his/her actions when selecting a partner is promiscuous by anyone's definition, I would think. And it is inherently self destructive behavior.

Now, whether being promiscuous is a BAD thing or not, would likely vary based on whom you asked.




Edited 5/31/2005 6:52 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Sat, 06-11-2005 - 6:32pm
Having sex enough that you have reduced the meaning of sex as nothing more than a hand shake with an orgasm...
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Tue, 06-14-2005 - 7:27pm

I would be curious to see what people think. How many is too many? I think that is what the original poster had in mind. For instance, I know a girl in college who had been with a dozen different guys in a single school year (her sophmore year). I thought that was too many and lost interest in her. But that was my thinking at that time. Any other thoughts?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 7:58pm

I don't think a number can be put on it, that would be a personal decision.


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