what really is the role of the vagina

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what really is the role of the vagina
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 2:17pm
hi ladies....please what really is the role if the vagina during sex.is there any pleasure at all due to penetration or is it just the sense that u have someone inside.is it an enjoyable sensation or is it just pleasur (i understand the clit is the main key).but how does penetration of the vagina really ought to feel like.pleas explain very well cause i dont have one and my gurl isn't much of an adventurer....thank...plsss
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 6:48pm

There is no one answer to your question.


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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 12:29am

Are you talking about "pleasure" or "orgasms"? They're two different things. A woman can enjoy intercourse, get pleasure from it, but not have orgasms from penetration alone. A woman doesn't have to have orgasms to have pleasure.

A part of the vagina's "role" is to give the man pleasure, too! And women get pleasure from GIVING that pleasure. Some women just enjoy the "fullness". Some feel very little. We're all different.

The key is pleasure, if you're giving it and getting it, don't try to analyze every little part of it.

If you want to know more about how a woman's body works, check out www.the-clitoris.com There's a lot more there than just info about the clitoris.

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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 1:08am
thankss..well the problem is she says she does not get pleasure from intercouse just preasure (orgasm is far away from it).she says i am her first (i understand somewomen dont have the hymen present when the have intercouse for the fist time).its over 8months now and she still sayz thesame thing..i even had to beg her to tell me how she feels or i would stop having sex with her (even though we dont do it often--cause of her).she keeps saying its her fault and that she is just under sexed..i dont know how to talk her to be free with her body. when we make out..its great sometimes i think she has wat i call a breast orgasm.. her clitoris seems to be responding fine..just the penetration. (i hope i'm not been too explicit here but i'm just concerned).she even makes mee slide in and out between her tigh (guess for clitoral friction..not too good for mebut i know she gets pleasure from it.)
please wat do i do when it comes to penetration...looks like she as zeroed her mind that penetration is pleasurable or she does not know how to go about it.she does not even let me use my finger..
i'm kinda angry and unhappy at thesame time
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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 1:45am

It sounds like she may have some issues with penetration that aren't really related to you or pleasure at all.

Do you know if she was ever abused or raped? Even orally or manually? You'd be surprised how many women have been but never told anyone about it. In our "blame the victim" society, it's no wonder that that's often the case. I would suggest that you begin asking some questions about her past and then you might have some answers.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 6:04am

Just a quick thought....if you want her to enjoy intercourse, you can begin by changing yourself. Stop pressuring her. That's the worse thing you can do to anyone. You feel as though you're being watched and there are expectations that you **need** to live up to. Even if it did feel good, she would probably miss the whole thing because she's worrying about it, because you are making her worry about it. Just leave her be. Just let it go. Why is it so important to you that she have orgasms through penetration? What difference does it make where they come from? Instead of drilling her, you should be doing the opposite, and reassuring her that you do not care where she gets pleasure from, as long as she does.

It's perfectly "normal" for women not to orgasm from intercourse alone and you're making her feel abnormal (not purposely, I know) and that could backfire big time. If anything, start with today, and let her know that it does not matter, and then resolve yourself to accepting that it may never. Many times when women are with men who put so much emphasis on orgasming without clitoral stimulation, the women will fake it to protect his ego (as it's apparent that it's quite dependent upon it ;-)). Why not instead, just let her feel comfortable to do whatever it is that she feels like doing. She knows her body best, just as you know yours. Just let her relax and enjoy, and you may be surprised.

The first thing you need to do, is take your ego out of the bedroom. Good luck.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 10:49pm
PLS DONT GET ME WRONG
hi...thanks every one.it seems somefolks are getting me wrong.... i am not putting preasure on her to have an orgasm (not even close..so it has nothing to do with ego).what i am saying is that she said she does not feel anything but pressure in her vagina.i think she is very scared about that part of her body.she wont even let me use my fingers.she seem to enjoy other things i do to her but penetration is out of it.no she says she as never touched herself.she wont even look at her V in the mirror (not like its that seriouse)..but the thing is..she is the kind of girl that dont tell u wat really pleasures them (mabe she thinks that makes her a wild girl).sometimes i see her making facial expressions when i'm doing things to her(u know!! like she is enjoying it..)but when she notices my eyes she stops (she says she is always shy).i think she as a different mind or expectation about penetration.thats whyi am asking HOW THE VAGInA FEELS ON AN AVERAGE DURING PENETRATION (any pleasure inside at all?).We have a great relationship so its not like she aint free with me.thanks
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-27-2006 - 6:23pm

Every woman is different but most women NEED clitoral stimulation to enjoy intercourse. So, most women only feel vaginal pressure if there is no additional stimulation.

Most sexual sensation comes from the clitoris, not the vagina. The clitoris runs up inside the pelvis about 5-6", so it's not just the little bulb you see on the outside of her body.

Check out www.the-clitoris.com for more information. In the meantime, BELIEVE what she's telling you. You're not doing anything wrong but you need to learn about female sexuality & biology.

SHE knows her own body and what she experiences with intercourse and it is different than what you experience. 2 sexes, 2 sexualities.

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Fri, 09-29-2006 - 3:05pm
jada, some women feel pleasure from intercourse, and some do not feel much at all. There is no pat answer here..If she is the kind who doesnt feel much, then there is probably nothing you can do to change that. But that doesnt mean she can`t feel intense pleasure DURING intercourse. If she is shy, then you are facing an uphill battle here. But if she is open to new ideas and is willing to try and make both your sexual experiances better, there are some things you two can do.
With you inside her, as you thrust away, she can masturbate herself with her hand, or even a vibrator. Its not considered cheating if she does this, it is called getting pleasure during intercourse, by any means possible and fun. Trust me, if you get her to use a vibrator on herself as you are inside her, she will be much more willing to repeat the experiance..lol.That can lead to some mind blowing orgasms for her, and a very easy way to co-ordinate that all elusive simultaneous orgasm.
Do you give her oral sex? Many women prefer oral to intercourse. For many women a tongue can do a lot more in the way of pleasing her than a penis could ever do.
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Registered: 03-19-2004
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 2:49pm
Unfortunately I'm one of those women where the sensation of vaginal sex is slim to none. I'm either numb or dissatisfied. I have no clue why some women can feel it there and some can't. It's frustrating. I would like to know what it's supposed to feel like too.
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Registered: 11-26-2004
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 3:38pm
Hump...good to **see** you too! You haven't been around much either.
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )

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