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| Sun, 08-07-2005 - 10:26pm |
What is sexier? (I'm getting implants, from a B to ...)
- Full B
- Small C
- Full C
- Small D
- Full D
- Full DD
- Bigger
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"....and that's the way it should be, no? ;-)"
Evidently. Unfortunately, it can be frustrating when that rule is applied in the bedroom, which isn't all that uncommon here. If the woman is dissatisfied with the sex then it's because the man is a lazy and selfish lover, but if the man is dissatisfied with the sex then that's also because he's a lazy and selfish lover. When it comes to sex, all women have to do is show up. Which, unfortunately, is all a lot of them do.
Oh come on, Rice....I was being sarcastic. ;-)
I really don't know where you get the idea that women just "show up."
When I was young, my friends and I would compare notes. All of them had the experience that I mentioned in a prior post(sex consisted of some kissing and about three minutes of intercourse). They really didn't get ANYTHING out of sex. Guys didn't perform oral or manual in those days(the clitoris wasn't recognized for what it is today) and as far as I can remember, ALL of the men were getting unsolicited BJ's and handjobs as well as receiving them as a part of foreplay. Doesn't that sound one-sided to you? If anything, it was an indication that women were selfless when it came to sex....
Nothing has really changed, Rice. According to the women that I know, the MEN are still being well taken care of(and deservedly so). I have never met a woman who didn't enjoy pleasing their partner with manual and oral, both during foreplay and as a solo act. They have NEVER NOT given their men the pleasure of oral and manual just because they're capable of an orgasm from just a few minutes of intercourse. I know you said "a lot" of women... but that hasn't been my experience, nor the experience of my friends and family--if anything...the opposite is true.
I don't know what board you've been reading, but I don't remember reading it here that whenever a man is dissatisfied with sex, it's due to his laziness and selfishness. I usually try and be fair when giving advice, and think about how I would feel in the same situation. Maybe you can give us some examples. This is obviously some thorn in your side, because you mention it often.
I just don't agree with you, Rice. Women are not selfish and lazy(which you imply). If anything, they're givers and are quite selfless where it pertains to sex; not the other way around. Not all, of course, but most.
Edited 8/12/2005 7:30 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
Yes, I would think that "Mr. Sarcasm" himself would certainly recognize it from others!
And I agree, I think most of us are fair and objective enough on this board to realize that it takes TWO working together to make good sex. The man is no more responsible for that than the woman is.
Edited 8/12/2005 1:02 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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See,that's just the whole thing about boobs. I looked up your "Luba" and she's attractive. She's got nice big boobs, but I can think of a dozen other pairs of breast that I think are way, way hotter -- both bigger and smaller (Nicole Lenz, Charlize Theron, Brooke Burke, Lani Todd, Tera Patrick...the list could go on for pages).
Breasts naturally come in an infinite variety of shapes, sizes and colors. I'm not saying that I find every woman's breast sexy, I'm saying that I've always thought it was ridiculous even try to say that bigger or smaller is "better" or "best" or more or less sexy. That fact is, there are guys who love 'em small, guys who love 'em big and guys (like me) who don't care one way of the other. And in the end, it doesn't matter what we prefer as men, nearly is much as it matter that a women is happy with her own body.
I wasn't trying to say that women were lazy and selfish, just complaining how quickly the women here are to make that accusation of any man whose woman is dissatisfied with their sex life. I've been reading the posts on this board off and on for more than 5 years and I've seen it happen many times. I'm not the only one who has noticed this trend, as evidenced by westridge's "I need cunnilingus" thread.
You also said that you hadn't met a woman who didn't enjoy pleasing their partner with manual and oral, both during foreplay and as a solo act. I have a different perspective on that, since I've never been with a woman who did. I've know some women who told me that they do enjoy it, but I wasn't intimate with them, so I can only take their word for it, just as you take the word of the women who talk to.
As difficult as it may be to believe, it is entirely possible for a man with a slow hand, a quick tongue, who can last considerably longer than three minutes, and is totally focused on the woman's pleasure can still illicit little response, and even less reciprocity. BTDT. I can accept that I may have been inept or clueless, but I was more than willing to learn and to do what I needed to do, but the necessary feedback was lacking. Different experiences simply generate different outlooks.
Also, I've always thought of myself as 'Mr Cynical', not 'Mr Sarcastic'. ;-)
When I said that all women have to do for sex is show up, I was simply stating a biological fact. It is entirely possible for a couple to have intercourse with the woman doing nothing more than showing up and laying there, and I believe that there are women who take advantage of this. I never intended it to mean that I thought that it was the way that it should be or supposed to be. It wasn't what I expected and it certainly wasn't what I wanted or desired, but it was what I experienced. That you interpreted what I said the way you did says something about your attitude toward men and your beliefs about how men view women.
In the beginning I believed as you did, that you get what you give, but experience has shown me that that doesn't always happen, especially with respect to sex. There have been numerous posts on this board by women who complained that they have been doing all the giving in their sexual relationships and have been getting nothing back in return. For some reason, I think that you have difficulty believing that that could happen to a man.
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Beren is a superficial JERK and OBVIOUSLY wants a blow-up doll for a woman. What a pathetic response!!! Hey Beren-how 'bout all the "under 7 inch" crowd get penile implants????? It can work BOTH ways, you jerk!!!!
Why is it that men can put down small-breasted women, but it's a heinous CRIME when these women retaliate by saying something degrading regarding penis size????
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