What should I do???

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Registered: 11-13-2006
What should I do???
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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 12:46pm

Okay guys,

First off let me say that I love my hubby like no other. Everything is great with us but his weight is begining to hinder our sex life. I am 5'7 and 117. He is 6'2 and 250. He is carrying all of his extra weight on his stomach. When we make love he crushes me. It's not fun, I can't breathe, I want it to be over. We flip and do the lady on top sometimes but I HATE it. I have to be tipsy to not feel like a fool. He is definitly the more experienced out of the two of us. I don't know how to do much that is not "standard". I'm trying to get over being "shy" and take control more often but in the meantime.....HELP! What can I do so that I don't hurt his feelings?

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 11-14-2006 - 12:03am

Why would you feel like a fool on top? Better a fool on top than being smothered to death! There is nothing to feel foolish about. If you learn how to do it properly, you'll love it. Most women do, and it has nothing to do with a weight problem. It's the best way to have orgasms for many women! How about doggie style? How about side by side? There are many things you can do so that he's not on top.

Maybe suggest that he go on a diet, and/or join a gym!

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Registered: 06-19-2001
Tue, 11-14-2006 - 5:53pm

Everything dakine001 said and:

Move to the end of the bed and let him stand up.

See: http://www.sex-techniques-and-positions.com/index.html for more ideas.

Have fun, I'm sure you can make things work out!

Osusguy
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Registered: 11-12-2006
Tue, 11-14-2006 - 6:48pm
Jazzy, Read my post on overweight men! So I'm not blowing smoke here. I have multiple orgasms everytime riding on top of my overweight man. We also do alot of oral separately and at the same time in the 69 position. Sometimes he will get on his knees and put my heels on his shoulders and put his hands on the wall or head board behind me. It takes his weight off me. This would probably be a good position for you if you hate being on top. Sometimes we lay on our sides with him behind me and he messages me in the front with his hand. Try some of these things and keep trying to be on top. That is our favorite position. I am a size 4 so I get the size difference but I actually like it sometimes when he gets on top and goes hard where I almost can't catch my breath..he's actually the one who doesn't feel comfortable doing that. Keep trying and give yourself fantasy time about being with him. I'm telling you it is hard for me to think of having some skinny guy all over me after being with my big guy. You said you love him dearly..focus on that and try masturbating while thinking of him. I do this often and when I finally get him alone I can't get his clothes off fast enough...of course he cherishes me and constantly says he can't believe his luck to have found a woman so turned on by him!! And since no one has responded to my earlier post, maybe I'm a one of a kind! So lucky him I guess! lol!