what should I do? - need help

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2005
what should I do? - need help
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Tue, 05-03-2005 - 10:39am

I have been with my fiance' soon to be my husband for the past 8 months now..We have spent nights together and explored each other a little bit... He doesn't want to have intercourse until after we are married, which is fine with me but there are some things that are bothering me and I signed up to see if I can get some help(we are both virgins)...
1)When ever we are together, I touch him, give him a handjob/BJ but can never finish cause I get tired... I feel like he takes a long time (which may be a good thing while having intercourse)... how do I or what do I need to do, so I can make him cum?
2)I love it when he touches my breasts and plays with them but when he tries to go down or just so much as touch me, I push his hand away or don't let him get below my belly button.. I masturbate and I touch myself all the time without any problems.. but when I am with him, I can't touch myself or let him... my clitoris is really sensitive... what do I do? He really wants to see me happy and since we are going to be married soon, I would like to get past this, please help me...

thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-26-2005
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 10:51am
When you are relaxed and comfortable with ALL aspects of each others bodies, this probably won't be an issue anymore. My wife still is hesitant sometimes to let me touch her "down there" because of sensitivity, but when we do occasionally take the time to "do it right" she can handle the stimulation. It's all about being in the right mood. As far as your BF taking too long, make sure you are not on a "one track" method. That is, don't just focus on "getting him off" and forgetting to make him feel good. If my wife just "jacks me off" for lack of a better way to say it, I last forever. But if she changes speeds, maneuvers, tactics, however you want to say it, it keeps me on my toes and makes me more "excited" and I don't last as long. The key is for both of you to relax and enjoy it.