Well, since you had an unusual relationship, I would probably wait for him to make a move now. It certainly seems to be like a FWB situation. I'm not sure what he was protesting about -- does he see it as less or more? If he sees it as more, then he needs to take a class in Relationships 101.
It's hard to say how he might feel about drinking in general, let alone you being drunk. How did he react to you getting sick?
At any rate, you really did everything that you can do by apologizing. I don't think I would write a novel, I would leave the ball in his court.
What do you want out of this? I'm confused about what you want, and if I'm confused you can probably be sure that Joe isn't quite sure what's going on either.
It seems like something that you thought had the potential to be a good relationship turned into a very casual and infrequent FWB arrangement. Although shocked at first you went along with it and you seem to be really into it now. But then you say that you feel lonely too. So what DO you want out of it? If he still wants to see you, where do you want it to go?
For what it's worth, a guy that's really into you would have spent considerably more time chasing you over this last, what is it?, almost a year? He hasn't so I think that he totally sees whatever the two of you have as a very, very casual thing.
I don't think it matters who "she" is dating. Seriously, it sounds like you're beating yourself up over someone who isn't interested in having a committed relationship. Do you seriously think he is sitting around waiting to see you once every few months?
I say this in the nicest way -- do yourself a favor and move on. Quite obsessing over him, and look for a guy who has the same relationship goals as you do. It's fairly obvious that you want more than a FWB, so do what is right for you and not these guys. JMHO.
I don't think that there is much point obsessing over who might or might not be dating who at this point.
If the guy was head over heels in love with you a bit of vomit will not have stopped him from calling you. Hell, I met my first wife when she was vomitting into a garden at a party! (Admittedly I didn't ask her out until a couple of months after that).
This guy is not knocking your door down in a rush to see you again. Not even close. And the only thing that you can conclude from his mySpace profile is that things are murky and complicated.
Let him go. If you can't let him go, call him once more, tell him that you're happy to hear from him again, want to get together again and would like to see more of him, and then just leave it all up to him.
Thanks......I thought my post was silly, but now maybe I'll say it anyway.
I met this guy "Joe" from Myspace.
Well, since you had an unusual relationship, I would probably wait for him to make a move now. It certainly seems to be like a FWB situation. I'm not sure what he was protesting about -- does he see it as less or more? If he sees it as more, then he needs to take a class in Relationships 101.
It's hard to say how he might feel about drinking in general, let alone you being drunk. How did he react to you getting sick?
At any rate, you really did everything that you can do by apologizing. I don't think I would write a novel, I would leave the ball in his court.
What do you want out of this? I'm confused about what you want, and if I'm confused you can probably be sure that Joe isn't quite sure what's going on either.
It seems like something that you thought had the potential to be a good relationship turned into a very casual and infrequent FWB arrangement. Although shocked at first you went along with it and you seem to be really into it now. But then you say that you feel lonely too. So what DO you want out of it? If he still wants to see you, where do you want it to go?
For what it's worth, a guy that's really into you would have spent considerably more time chasing you over this last, what is it?, almost a year? He hasn't so I think that he totally sees whatever the two of you have as a very, very casual thing.
I don't even remember how he reacted.
me again, original poster
I can't help but like this guy.
original poster again.
I don't think it matters who "she" is dating. Seriously, it sounds like you're beating yourself up over someone who isn't interested in having a committed relationship. Do you seriously think he is sitting around waiting to see you once every few months?
I say this in the nicest way -- do yourself a favor and move on. Quite obsessing over him, and look for a guy who has the same relationship goals as you do. It's fairly obvious that you want more than a FWB, so do what is right for you and not these guys. JMHO.
I don't think that there is much point obsessing over who might or might not be dating who at this point.
If the guy was head over heels in love with you a bit of vomit will not have stopped him from calling you. Hell, I met my first wife when she was vomitting into a garden at a party! (Admittedly I didn't ask her out until a couple of months after that).
This guy is not knocking your door down in a rush to see you again. Not even close. And the only thing that you can conclude from his mySpace profile is that things are murky and complicated.
Let him go. If you can't let him go, call him once more, tell him that you're happy to hear from him again, want to get together again and would like to see more of him, and then just leave it all up to him.