What should I dooooooo ???????? :-(

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Registered: 03-27-2003
What should I dooooooo ???????? :-(
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 12:20am
My bf and I began to have sex and it's been pretty mundane for the most part because we're just starting out and I was a virgin so I want to give my body a bit of time to adjust to all the..pushing and banging lol. Anyways, I want to do more with him. I want to get into foreplay more and go down on him and everything but I'm scared. I'm a bit self concious of my body even though he loves it. I don't know what to do. I was thinking I'd get the room all dark that way he won't really see stuff but I don't know this is going to be really hard for me now that I think about it. Also, I'm terrified of him going down on me and I don't know why. I'm really self concious for some reason but it's weird because sometimes I'm completely not but other times, like this, I completely am. I don't know what to do :( I don't want to tell him that I'm self consious it'll kill the mood we just started out already!!

What should I dooooooooo :(

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Fri, 10-15-2004 - 11:42am
Being insecure and humble are two different things altogether. When you're insecure, you don't believe that you're something, when you're humble, you understand that you are, but you don't want to be recognized for it. It's meritless. In other words, being born beautiful. It's embarassing when someone compliments you on your beauty because you didn't earn it. The same for a rich person who is born rich. It's similar to an adult being idolized for knowing 1 + 2 = 3. When you get so much attention just because you're beautiful, it can make you humble. Particularly when you see that you get special treatment from others, just by the way you look. Of course we say thank you for a compliment, to not do so would be rude. If you're insecure, it's because you doubt that you're any of those things that you're complimented on, if you're humble it's because you're modest about them.
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Fri, 10-15-2004 - 3:12pm
OP..Trust me on this.....When you two are in the heat of passion, and he is about to go down on you, the last thing on his mind will be your thighs.lol Many people prefer oral sex to the actual act itself. Relax and have fun...There is no better feeling on earth than to know you helped your mate feel incredible. Learn all you can about each others bodys.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Sat, 10-16-2004 - 4:50am
think about what is going on and not what might happen. make up for lack of experience with zeal and enjoyment. he will appreciate it and you probably will enjoy it more. do not be afraid and if he doesn't appreciate it then learn what is wrong with the technique and be better. no offense meant from him or me

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