What size would you prefer
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| Thu, 04-13-2006 - 6:42pm |
I was talking with DH a long time ago about penis size. Guys are very concerned about this evidently...even guys with pretty nice sized things are. I have been with some nice ones and they still wondered if it was big enough...The question I asked DH was...how big do guys think WE want? He said that he always thought most girls would want 8 inches long and about 6 inches or more around...I have to say that for me that is a little too big on a day to day basis. I have had a 10x6 incher and it is amazing...but if I had to choose which one my DH had...I would choose 7x5+...I don't prefer that huge thing...although I can have fun with it. I like one I can get in my mouth real nice too. But I will tell you that if the 10 inch guy couldn't go down well...then I would take 4 incher who could any day of the week...and this should go without saying but I have to be into the guy no matter what size he is and his size doesn't determine how much I like him. We feel love from our hearts not from how big your thing is. SO he asked me this:
All things being equal if I had a choice of penis size, what would I go with? So this is my question to the other girls out there... remember, all things being equal. Kind of like you could order a guy part by part....Let me answer first so that you will see where I am coming from.
Ok...Here goes:
For me, I prefer 7 inches long and 5 1/2 inches around (DH), to me, that is perfectly BIG. and I think of it as big...not average. I like average too...I can have some gooood fun with average (5x4.5)...I've had much bigger and smaller. So, this is just what I prefer (7x5.5). It fits in my p***y really really nice...and it fits in my mouth just right and those are the only places I tend to put it...I want all the guys out there to know that most of us girls wouldn't dump you if you had a 4 inch one. We would very much like it however if you could please us with other parts of your body. We want to know that you love to give us pleaure too...I for one am most satisfied with oral. I cum when a guy goes down on me but he does have to know what he is doing (read up on it if you don't). I don't cum everytime through penetration <--I have cum that way and it is amazing but the best orgasm I ever had was DH going down on me and right when I was cumming he put two fingers inside me and wiggled them around all crazy pressing up against the front part of my wall, this started something for me...now it's everytime. I was in a place at that time that no penis alone could take me. I attacked him after that and gave him a bj that he would remember today if you asked him about it! I was very thankful. So with that said. All things being equal:
What size would you prefer?

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Okay, hump, I'll bite and even answer the 2nd question for kicks.
1.)A guy who uses his erection to please not only himself but his lover is using it correctly. My DH will massage my g-spot and focus on those areas that provide me with the most pleasure and sensation. Unfortunately, many men don't do that. They just assume that what pleases THEM, must please their partner. THAT'S what I mean when I use that phrase "it's what he does with it."
2.)You already see this one coming, I'm sure but my preference is the size the man has. If I'm attracted enough to be in bed with what I CAN see with his clothes on, than the size of his penis is just not important. I've already made a decision to sleep with him. And hopefully, if everything goes as I would like, I'll have already orgasmed at least ONCE before we ever get to intercourse!
I'm sorry to hear that phillip...I would venture to say that very few women would do that. I would never take a lover if DH hadn't suggested it. there are women out there that would never think of doing that. I hope it works itself out. As I said in a nother thread...I prefer oral over penetration. I like penetration too...but if I had to take one or the other...I would choose a good oral lover every time. Are you still together?
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Those are very accurate statements Kat...I never meant for this thread to put smaller guys down...just see what most women preferred. I hope that the guys who read this thread see that it really is the guy we want not his tool. If DH lost the use of his today, it wouldn't change a thing about how I feel about him...I know how much he wants to please me and that is a huge turn on for me. Just knowing that he is willing to do whatever it takes is enough for me. I dated a guy for 2 years that was on the small end, we had an amazing sex life...he was one of the very best at oral...he left me for a mutual friend. that hurt very badly. I would have never left him. But now I have DH. and he loves me from his soul. It isn't the size of his thing...it's the size of his heart. I prefer his size, probably because I love him so much...I guess I would have a different preference if he was a different size. I never thought of it that way before. I really love for a guy to do down on me. something about lips wrapped around my clit. uh...oh...I better go find DH.
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Hump, two things that I like the best. Nothing spectacular really....but slow, hard thrusting, or medium thrusting. The very hard-fast ones, the sensation just get's lost for some reason. Also, and this is one of my favorites, is to take the penis out and slide it up through the vulva past the clitoris, and then back down again. Alternating this with intercourse/outercourse. My favorite. There's something so erotic about having the penis massage the outer limits. ;-)
As far as size goes: It really doesn't matter. Even if it was a ONS, I would still care about the man's feelings and be compassionate about his size...so whatever it is, it'll be fine with me. If I'm having sex with him, more than likely it's because he turns me on immensely....did you get the "HE" part--not his penis. I would be turned on well before I even see his penis. The fact that HIS penis(whatever it's size) is attached to THAT man, would make it my preference. I guess that I'm just open-minded about it then? A penis is mostly about HIS pleasure. I have other ways that I can get pleased.
Hope that helps...even though I'm not what you specified. tee hee
Edited 4/18/2006 8:10 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
Two questions for the ladies.....
#1 we always hear its not the size, but what you do with it that counts, but we never hear what it is that they mean EXACTLY by "what you do with it"..Ladies please enlighten us.
I can only answer for myself but -- all things being equal it the the hardness of the penis, not the size. I don't get a lot of pleasure from a semi-hard penis -- no matter the size. I know that this is something that men can't really control, any more than the actual size, but that is what I find pleasurable.
#2 All things being equal, his caring, talent, etc .( or for argument sake a one night stand)what size THEN would you perfer?....Im just curious ( this question is for those ladies who say size makes a difference).
I have never measured, but I would prefer a guy on the smaller side of 'average' who was able to maintain a good erection than a bigger guy who pumped a few times and was done.
IMO, #1, has to do more with the man than the penis. XH was able to hit Gspot everytime and because we were about the same size, we moved in joint motion (thrusts meeting thrusts). He also was wonderful orally (until he stopped doing it), and his fingers were absolutely amazing (longer lasting than penis too). What I absolutely loved about his penis was that I could take it all in my mouth and got cream filling everytime. Yet, current man flacid is the size XH was erect yet, I consider them both wonderful and acknowldege that it's the man behind the body part that counts. Current man truly knows he has great control with IC. He's able to slow down, even stop, with my first couple of contractions so that he can prolong our enjoyment. He can PUMP it until I see fireworks (just last night-LOL). He also drives me crazy by going all the way out and in SLOWLY. Then sometimes, he'll just poke the head inside and then out, in then out then in! It seems he can always tell when he's hitting the Gspot and he loves the flow that comes with it so he loves to concentrate on that area. His fingers could use some training and his oral is heaven. Sad to say I've never tasted his cream-filling, yet I'm bound and determined-one of these days!
#2, based upon what I've just written and all things-being-equal, I'd say larger. But again, size is nothing without knowledge &/or a willingness to please.
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