What in the world happened?

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Registered: 04-13-2004
What in the world happened?
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Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:01pm
to all the messages that were posted?? Not that I'm not glad to see them go, it was really too much, but do threads get to a certain length and then get cut out? I don't undderstand. Was it too much information? Too much arguing and meaness? I'm sorry if I caused any fighting. I was just wondering though. Thanks.

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:05pm
I was wondering that too. I read some of dnkysho's posts last night and wanted to review that thread again but it's gone. I didn't see anything mean.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:14pm
My *guess* would be the talk of drug use. Yasmin's thread was removed as well. I doubt it was from "meanness", since many threads get heated like that but are not removed. If you contact IVillage they will probably give you an answer. Someone probably reported the threads for some reason.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:21pm
Ok. I was only trying to answer some questions and explain, but I will not talk about that again. And I think some other things might be too much as well. I'd just like to stick around in case. Thanks.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:30pm
If you read the TOS above, you'll see that there's not a whole lot of restrictions on subject matter, only on language. As long as you use the proper terminology, rather than street slang and terms, which offend many people, you should be ok.

However, when something evoves into tremendously long threads, it becomes a "debate", and for some reason, iVillage doesn't LIKE debates, unless it's on the "debate" board. For the life of me I don't understand THAT. Different points of views are what make message boards interesting!

There is also the possibility, as someone else mentioned, that someone was offended by something, and whether or not it offends anyone else, if someone "reports" something, it brings it to the attention of the "powers that be", and if they see fit, they delete it. Sometimes just one post, sometimes, as in this case, the whole thread. There are some people who don't understand that other people will not agree with them, and as in this thread, it evolves into name calling and insults back and forth. THAT will definitely get things deleted.

There are occasional posts that get long, because they're interesting, but they won't be deleted, unless it becomes arguing. It also doesn't help if the OP starts complaining about something, as you did, then turns around and starts defending the same behavior they complained about. Then people get really upset because it doesn't make sense. You're either unhappy, or you're not. Evidently you're not unhappy, and some people just see that as denial....but you're entitled to feel any way you want to feel, including changing your mind, or being in denial. It's your life, and you can live it any way you see fit. You just can't expect others to agree with you. And the people who reply also need to understand that others may not agree with them. Then it becomes like kindergarten......"are too".....AM NOT!"......and that's what those posts were becoming.

It wasn't the subject matter, it was the attitudes!

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:36pm
I was wondering the same thing- I am a newbie here, just starting to read the posts. I just wanted to let you know in particular that I hope you continue to post. Although I don't agree with everything your husband has done, I do feel you are in complete control and you're not being abused by any means. I hope you keep posting- its very entertaining to read, and makes me a little wistful for a nice beach house right on the water! Glad to see you here
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:37pm
Ok, thanks jo.
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Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:43pm
I think buckeyejo explained it pretty well. In fact, really well. I did come on in search of an answer to something, but then I felt I had to defend some of the things that were being said tht just weren't true and misconstrued. But I know there is a bit of a control problem at our house - it's very difficult to explain and talk about sometimes. I also get very caught up in my husbands fantasy's. Sometimes I feel sick about it, but mostly I feel turned on. I'll try to mind myself here more though. Thanks
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:43pm
I would have to agree with this skeehn2000. I may not agree with everything, but I do believe in different lifestyles, and different attitudes about sex. Your relationship with your husband is an interesting one, to say the least, and I have enjoyed reading the posts, although in my case things got way out of hand, over my opinion of peoples abusive comments towards you, and your choice of lifestyle. I on the other hand support your lifestyle, and don't find anything wrong with it. I do not believe your husband abuses you, nor do I feel you are acting in anyway two faced as some have tried to say. You had a question, you asked it, and the only reason you were assaulted so much through comments was your choice of wording. When the word abuse is used, so many people are so quick to jump up and throw down on the man in the relationship, that they fail to see the whole picture. He leads a certain lifestyle, that you choose to participate in, willingly, and others seem to see it as offensive. Well, I just hope you didn't take to many of the things said personally, and see that those individuals have there own issues to work on, rather than trying to work on everyone elses. I hold no ill will towards anyone on this board, as long as everyone else can keep from making personal attacks, I am all for peace, love and acceptance.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:52pm
Well, this morning I was talking to my girlfriend (she posts here on ivillage on different boards) and is the one who introduced me to ivillage. I told her what happened and she asked me what on earth was the topic? I told her I was on the sex boards and she was like, "You were?" So, I told her to go look there and call me later so we coud talk about everything. She called me back up and said "which board?" So as we were on the phone, I went on-line along with her and couldn't find anything! Only the Mary Kay Cosmetic dealy I'm going to have. She said she read that thread and was asking me "What the heck, tiana?" Showing your breasts to the other wives? Huh? So, I said, well lets talk.

I guess in a way now I'm glad everything was taken away. Now I can pick and choose what I will tell her instead of her knowing all that. But we were both like "What?"

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:55pm
I was too. I logged on this morning and it was gone. I was looking forward to continuing the long, lengthy, and at times heated, (admit my part in that, not all of it was my fault, but I did have a part) debate over it. Same goes for the lawyers thread as well. It is gone too.

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