What would you choose?

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What would you choose?
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 11:03am

If you were in a relationship, and you had to choose between one of these two options, which one would you choose?

A) A man who satisfies you emotionally in every aspect possible. He treats you like a woman should be treated and you never doubt his love for you. But on the other hand, your are not satisfied with your sex life with him at all.

or

B) A man who satisfies you sexually in every aspect possible. It is the best sex you have ever had in your life. But on the other hand, he doesn't satisfy you emotionally and isn't as sweet or caring as you would like him to be. He isn't romantic and sometimes can be distant with you.

Would you choose to be satisfied emotionally even if you have to sacrifice your sex life for it? Or would you sacrifice your feelings for a great sex life?

Just curious...

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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 11:11am

I would definitely, without a doubt, choose A. You can always teach your partner how to please you in bed since the desire would already be there to learn!

However, an emotionally distant and unromantic man might not be concerned enough to do so.

You can teach technique, you can't teach sensitivity or concern.

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 11:21am

Kat -

You are a fountain of wisdom...:)

I think the OP knew the answer already.

Peace,
Scott.

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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 11:32am

She probably did, Scott, but many people seem value great sex over all else in a relationship so getting B answers isn't unheard of. And she WAS asking for opinions.




Edited 11/8/2005 11:36 am ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 12:03pm
I think implications behind the original post is that choices A and B and mutually exclusive. Suggesting anything else defeats the whole point of the original post.
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 1:16pm

I would definitely pick A, wouldn't have to think twice about it.


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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 3:27pm
If a man is romantic and sensitive, then he's open and desirous to please his partner. Can't have one without the other.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 3:37pm

I would pick A, for the same reasons. Stating WHY you would choose one over the other isn't changing anything about the answer.

A good loving caring decent guy can be taught to be better in bed.

A sexually satisfying jerk can't be taught to be a good loving caring decent man outside of the bedroom.

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Registered: 12-20-2004
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 5:27pm
Dak and Kat...BINGO!
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 9:01pm

I'd choose A.

Obviously in real life *something* can be done about the sex.

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Registered: 08-14-2004
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 2:21am

I am a guy so I cant answer, but isnt sex physical and emotional. If a guy inst emotionally connected w/ you, then the sex is purely physical so you are missing half of the "love making" right there.

Why not just have a friend (multiple friends) w/ benefits. The relationship is just sex anyways right? At least a friend cant let you down emotionally like a spouse can.

Just my two cents.

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