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What would you do?
| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 9:20am |
Just have a question need some womanly advice. If your husband cook dinner for you and your kids every night, clean the house, did the laundry every weekend, took the kids to school and picked them up every day and all the other stuff around the house. Would you have sex with him when every he wanted to?

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Jenn
Edited 6/22/2004 9:25 am ET ET by poolgurl29
Well, I have a high sex drive, so it's rare when I don't want to have sex, so for me the answer would be yes, but not because my husband takes care of all the household chores, kids, etc.
If I had a live-in maid like Alice on The Brady Bunch, I'd LOVE that, but I wouldn't want to have sex with her because she did the chores. ;-D
I have sex with my husband whenever he wants, because I love him, he turns me on, and I have a healthy sex drive. Unless I'm really sick, I always want it. :) Most of all, I always want HIM. He just does it for me, and though I appreciate when he helps out at home, that's not the sexual trigger for me. We both make advances sexually. That's pretty even for us.
I hope that made sense...
BUT seriously....like the others who responded....I'd do it whether or not he did those things, because I WANT to.....not because of what he does.
Hopefully, you're doing those things because you want to, not because of what you'll get out of it. If you're having a problem getting sex, it's not because of what you do or don't do.....it's because SHE has a problem, and maybe that needs to be looked into.
PS: Since you seem to be doing the majority of the "work" around the house, what does SHE do all day long?
No, I make love with my DH because I WANT to, not as a reward.
Talk with her, tell her what you'd like as far as frequency, etc. and ask for a compromise. IF she's not willing to make some changes, then counseling might be in order.
If you're not getting as much sex as you'd like, then it's time to talk about it, and find out what her problem is. Or, maybe it's YOUR problem....you're not saying. Two different people, with two different ideas of how much sex is enough sex.
Maybe you expect more than she can give. Enough of the maybe's.....just talk to the woman and see where SHE's coming from, and figure out how to reach a compromise.
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