What is wrong with this guy?

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What is wrong with this guy?
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Sat, 11-20-2004 - 3:36pm

discussion title: What's wrong with this guy?
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from: tenew
date: Nov-19 10:22 pm
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I am 23 and have been having a sexual relationship with a 42 year old since august. More and more he's starting to seem weird to me or like he has a problem or something. I don't know what's wrong with him. We would go over his house to have sex and spend time together. All of a sudden a couple weeks ago he said he's going to stop having sex in his house. Then he said something about family issues, and his uncle coming down and said nevermind. I thought well maybe he was high when he was talking cause he smoke 6 to 7 blunts a day. I talked to him again and he said he was serious. Now we have to go to a hotel and he feels like since he's paying for it we should be there all night. He wants me there from 8pm to 8am. He must be forgetting I have a 4 year old son. I'm thinking either he's turning religious or he's sleeping with another girl. I use to go over there about 3pm or 4pm and stay there until about 8pm or 9pm. Now he's talking about he's busy during the day so he would have to get me at night. I just don't understand how someone could be busy and have something to do everyday. Especially during the day and we've been laid off from work. Then he tells me he's wants to me to watch some porn movies for a week. Then do everything to him that's in the movie and to save all my energy for this day. To do things to him without him telling me and he wants me to get freaky and nasty with him. Then he asks me do I like sex and how often. I'm starting to think he's a real freak. But I should've know this after him asking me how many p*nises I've seen and a bunch of sex question concerning my ex. He also put on a porn movie one day talking about he just watches it cause he like the music. He has us walk around the house naked. What is wrong with this man?

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Sat, 11-20-2004 - 3:58pm
No clue but I would be walking away from that pretty fast.
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Sat, 11-20-2004 - 4:08pm

I've got no idea....however, as a mother, you owe it to your child to be either secure alone or with a really nice, decent man. Certainly not a drug user.

Move on and find someone you deserve. Don't look back and don't even waste your time trying to figure him out.

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Sat, 11-20-2004 - 4:13pm
I replied to you yesterday on the guy talk board.

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Sat, 11-20-2004 - 4:31pm

I don't know why you've even taken the time to post this question. It would have been time better spent getting the hell out of this situation and away from this guy.

Who knows exactly why he's acting so insane and bizzare? Maybe the drugs have rotten his brain after 43 years? Maybe he hasn't got an uncle and it's his dope-dealing friends using his house as a crack house? After-all, he isn't working so where else is he getting the money for hotels and drugs from, and why else do you have to stay away from his house? Maybe he is screwing another woman? Maybe he has a wife and children at home?

Regardless of what's happening with that side of things none of it explains why his sexual behaviour is so bizzare? Watching porn movies for the music??! Making you imitate porn actresses after forcing you to watch porn all week??! You don't need to know why he acts like this. You already know enough; this is one very, very strange guy involved in something very, very strange.

Run. Run away very fast and don't look back. This is a bad situation and will only get worse if you don't get out NOW.




Edited 11/20/2004 4:32 pm ET ET by westridge2001
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Sun, 11-21-2004 - 1:58am
The first thing that comes to my mind is that this guy is setting up cameras in the motel room and filming what you are doing.