What is wrong with me???
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What is wrong with me???
| Tue, 10-23-2007 - 1:11am |
I am having serious relationship problems and need your help!
| Tue, 10-23-2007 - 1:11am |
I am having serious relationship problems and need your help!
Welcome to the board, Jen. I don't think any of us here can accurately access what's going on, or why you feel this need for attention. Flirting can be fun, and can feel good to anyone, but carrying on to the point of betrayal is a whole different thing.
Have you ever thought about seeking the help of a counselor? There are also counselors that specialize in sex therapy.
It sounds as if you like the initial feelings, the newness of the attention, the sexual pull that can occur. In every relationship, that is going to cool to some degree as the partners settle into the relationship. A good counselor will help you find the triggers that are causing you to seek attention outside of your relationship, and will help you find ways to redirect those thoughts/needs.
Does your current partner know that you have had affairs in the past? Or have you had affairs since being with him? It would probably be easier for you to address all of this before your relationship gets to a point of feeling stale. You said that the two of you are already beginning to fight about your low sex drive. Seeking the help of a counselor can also help you with that.
my partner in the siggy exchange
Okay, this may sound coarse but it's coming from a guy. What do we know, right?
Have you ever considered just being single? Or dating non-exclusively? Sounds to me like sex isn't your problem. Settling down into a committed relationship is. At least for now.
And by the way - not wanting settle down doesn't say anything about you other than you're 28 and don't want to settle down. End of story.
You may be engaged now, but do yourself (and your fiance) a favor - don't walk down the aisle until you're ready to commit. No need to be 29, 30, 31 and have been divorced three times.
Enjoy being single for awhile.
-lg