Kat, I've been flamed on other boards as well, sometimes I think .... oh well, that's not important.
What is, is that the members here do try to keep this a sex positive place. While there can be a few touchy subjects, for the most part, none of us tolerate being judged for our own choices. Thanks for noticing that, and participating in it!
This is a much easier list than my, OH! yes yes list!
Absolute no's: kids, animals, scat, blood, strangulation, S&M, MMFs, rape fantasies, swinging, no real pain, absolutely no hitting, does not include spanking! No public sex , nor the viewing of
Your yes yes list is just about identical to mine and DH, with one exception so far he is saying no to a strap on, he will do anal play, that just started recently, at my suggestion....so i am giving it some time, and i hope he will come around to it..my gut says he will at some point, and i cant wait as that is my fantasy at this point.
Yeah, no to the MMF thing! I know it really is hypocritical, but I just can't play that way. I've had some very close friends ask me to join in, but I just can't do it. I'm not in the least homophobic, just don't want to be that intimate with another guy in that situation. As for the MFF, well, not something I would push, but if she wanted to I wouldn't say no. I am really very loyal, and only get involved if there is emotional attachment, so, I don't know how dangerous it would be as far as raising the jealousy issue. I could be totally mistaken, but it just seems that I would not have an issue with my partner having a female partner, whether we shared or not.
As far as the strap-on thing, well, for a guy, that is about as intimate as he can let you get. He, we, have been conditioned to believe that we are solely the penetrators and not the penetratees. Somehow it is emasculating to allow such a thing to happen. Some guys, even with all the openness about the p spot, still believe that you are gay if you like anal play, let alone intercourse. It is a huge misperception, especially when you realize that gay men actually participate in oral more than anal play. Yet how many guys want to give, and how is this fair? Why should women be the only one's to receive. In my mind that is sexist!
I was introduced to anal very early, and I am over sexed to boot. But to give her that control, that trust, and that level of intimacy rocks my world. Plus the feelings are incredible, and the orgasms out of this world.
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Maggie,
You're not the only one who's been "flamed" by others...
Kat, I've been flamed on other boards as well, sometimes I think .... oh well, that's not important.
What is, is that the members here do try to keep this a sex positive place. While there can be a few touchy subjects, for the most part, none of us tolerate being judged for our own choices. Thanks for noticing that, and participating in it!
Not Quite Engaged ~ Breaking Up is Hard To Do
We have some Diva's in the House!
Awwww, Kat ... that's such a sweet thing to say!
Thank you :-D
Not Quite Engaged ~ Breaking Up is Hard To Do
We have some Diva's in the House!
This is a much easier list than my, OH! yes yes list!
Absolute no's: kids, animals, scat, blood, strangulation, S&M, MMFs, rape fantasies, swinging, no real pain, absolutely no hitting, does not include spanking! No public sex , nor the viewing of
May you live for one hundred Autumns
May you be prosperous for one hundred Autumns
May you be healthy for one hundred Autmns
May you b
Hi Sandi
Yeah, no to the MMF thing! I know it really is hypocritical, but I just can't play that way. I've had some very close friends ask me to join in, but I just can't do it. I'm not in the least homophobic, just don't want to be that intimate with another guy in that situation. As for the MFF, well, not something I would push, but if she wanted to I wouldn't say no. I am really very loyal, and only get involved if there is emotional attachment, so, I don't know how dangerous it would be as far as raising the jealousy issue. I could be totally mistaken, but it just seems that I would not have an issue with my partner having a female partner, whether we shared or not.
As far as the strap-on thing, well, for a guy, that is about as intimate as he can let you get. He, we, have been conditioned to believe that we are solely the penetrators and not the penetratees. Somehow it is emasculating to allow such a thing to happen. Some guys, even with all the openness about the p spot, still believe that you are gay if you like anal play, let alone intercourse. It is a huge misperception, especially when you realize that gay men actually participate in oral more than anal play. Yet how many guys want to give, and how is this fair? Why should women be the only one's to receive. In my mind that is sexist!
I was introduced to anal very early, and I am over sexed to boot. But to give her that control, that trust, and that level of intimacy rocks my world. Plus the feelings are incredible, and the orgasms out of this world.
May you live for one hundred Autumns
May you be prosperous for one hundred Autumns
May you be healthy for one hundred Autmns
May you b
Maggie I had to add that I also found your choices and explanations quite reasonable and very well put.
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