What's up with this??
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What's up with this??
| Thu, 10-26-2006 - 2:40pm |
My boyfriend and I had a great, satisfying sex life... until we tried anal. Now it is like he is obsessed with it and normal sex isn't fulfilling enough for him. This has been going on for months and I'm noticing that our connection is diminishing and we are fighting constantly. I think something that is triggering this unrest in me is I feel like anal sex doesn't have an emotional connection like regular sex. He keeps saying that you have to try it a couple times until it feels good but seriously, we've been trying for months and I just am not a fan. And I don't feel like I want to have sex with him as much or at all anymore because I know he will ask or try anal. I've talked to him about it but he assures me nothing between us has changed, it's just something different. I even said I would do it but it was a treat but then he trys the most mundane reasons to qualify as deserving a treat. Is this something that can be overcome or do I need to throw in the towel because of this issue??

If you don't like it, you don't like it. Tell him you don't like it, and you don't want to do it anymore. End of story.......and if that's the end of the relationship, then there are other problems going on that you're not seeing or admitting to.
There are two of you in the relationship, and just because he likes it, that doesn't mean you have to do it.....and he WILL live without it. Or without you.