What's the best position for one with ED

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Registered: 05-31-2007
What's the best position for one with ED
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Tue, 12-18-2007 - 5:54pm

I am 33 years of age and have recently been unable to maintain an erection hard enough for penetration. This has obviously affected our sex life, tho my wife has been very understanding and we are working on it. I have been to a doctor and had all the tests done and it turns out that i am physically okay and that i need to work on reducing my stress and fatigue levels (my work is quite taxing, i don't drink, i don't smoke). I was given stuff to inject myself and while it worked, (the idea was that i would gradually get used to the idea of having an erection and would eventually be able to maintain it on my own) it was definitely not ideal for us and we have decided not to use that stuff for now.

My question is, what are the ideal sex positions for a couple like us? The missionary position is a no-no because by the time i position myself for penetration, I've gone soft. Same applies for most positions (though i must admit we hadn't been very adventurous here). We do mutual masturbation quite often and i am able to maintain an erection for quite a while so long as there is constant stimulation. Am convinced that we should soon attempt penetrative sex and am wondering what would be the ideal sex position for us. Has anyone out there had similar experiences?

We would be very grateful for any useful tips and/or webpages with more info.

Regards

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Registered: 09-10-2007
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 10:08pm

Good for you for dealing with your situation and not ignoring it!


It would seem to me that doggy style would be a good position for you since you could keep stroking yourself right up until entry, and you could easily pull out and "give yourself a hand" if you start to lose your erection while you're inside. Your wife can help by making sure her pelvic floor muscles are toned so she can grip you more tightly and provide more sensation during intercourse. A wonderful device for helping to keep those PC muscles in shape is SmartBalls, which you've probably seen discussed on these boards. They are available from Drugstore.com and are highly effective.


I'm sure others will come along with more suggestions. Best of luck to you...




Em





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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 10:14pm

Welcome to the board, bigaz2002.

My husband has had trouble with ED off and on over the past several years. Rear entry positions can be great for quick entry. He can stroke himself if necessary to maintain his erection while we position ourselves. Once he's able to enter me, he usually doesn't have any problems maintaining his erection unless we take a break from penetration.