What's his Deal?
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What's his Deal?
| Sun, 04-24-2005 - 6:20pm |
I met this guy about 4 years ago and we have been talking/e-mailing ever since. He dissapears for months at a time but then will come back. Neither one of us talks about relationships or anything but when we are together it's obvious we both like eachother and the sex is great. But then after we see eachother and sleep together he dissapears and I feel used. My question is...if a man didn't care for his partner and it was just a hook-up for sex would he go down on her, stop when it hurt a little or have sex with her in the morning? I am just trying to figure him out.

>>My question is...if a man didn't care for his partner and it was just a hook-up for sex would he go down on her, stop when it hurt a little or have sex with her in the morning? <<
yes, yes, yes. Oral sex isn't an expression of feeling - they do it because they like it. Stopping when it hurts - that simply means that he's not a brute. Sex in the mornings...hell yes: he's horny and wants to orgasm.
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What is there to figure out? It's a FWB situation. When he's between g/f's or whatever, he's looking for sex, you're available and willing. If you feel used, then you're being used. If you don't want to be used, say no.
You said it yourself....you feel used. He only comes around and makes an effort when he wants sex so I think the answer is obvious.
Stop attempting to justify your choice to be available he comes around and be honest with yourself. This is not a relationship. Find a guy you can depend on and build a REAL, adult relationship with.
This guy is an opportunist and you're just providing the opportunity!