Whats with the penis?

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Registered: 06-21-2004
Whats with the penis?
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Sun, 07-04-2004 - 4:17pm
Now, I need to find a way to word this so that it comes out and across the right way. But What is with a man and his penis?? Donno if men in general are like this, but my man seems to have this thing with his. He likes to massage his balls, but not to get off or anything, but because it feels good. Whats with that?? I have no idea if this is normal, since I dont think that this is something that men do in front of people. And I cant just ask someone "So do you like to sit and massage your balls?" But he sits with one hand in his pants, in front of the tv, computer and when he is on the phone. (not all the time, but these are just exaples of when he does it) Whats even weirder (is that a word?)is that he can sit with his hand down under, and then use the same hand to eat. How gross is that?

Now don't anyone come and tell me to end my relationship over this. (for anyone who read my other messages about my relationship, this has been going on since we started dating - nothing to do with the sex) I can handle it, there are some things you can't change about a person, but I am just wondering what is up with a man and his penis & balls?

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Sun, 07-04-2004 - 4:45pm

I would say ask him why he does it.


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Sun, 07-04-2004 - 4:51pm
ROFL. My DH is holding his penis alot. He says it feels good. I don't care, as long a she doesn't do it in front of company LOL.

Leticia

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Registered: 06-16-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 12:39am
I do it, in the shower and when I masturbate or a private time like that. why?on and around the penis and the balls, are these places called energy points. they are the same ones referd to in accupunture, shiatsu etc. In Accupressure, they are used for stimulation and therapy. The penis and testicle points obviously improve the funtionalites of the organ. While it feels good, the penis point itself will give you an errection if stimulated properly. While the accupressure experts do this on a pin point basis, the normal man would still feel the stimulation even when you getly caress the whole area. How do the normal person know the point? Just by feeling the best stimulation points found over the years of masturbation, exploring the body etc.

Have you ever pressed the sides of the forehead (the temples ) when you had a headache, it is a good energy point to massage when having headache. But did you know that it was an accupressure point? Some of these points (some of them , otherwise we would not have the need for accupunturists) come naturally for us, and the penis area being very sensitive, is one of them.

accupressure points is a deep subject to learn before you appreciate or discard it, which I was fortunate to have a dabble in.

as for him doing this in semi-public, like Tish said, ask him.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 2:20am
It's "normal" for HIM.....and I don't think it's at all unusual for many men. Athletes do it in public all the time. As long as HE doesn't do it in public, why shouldn't he do whatever he likes in the privacy of his own home?

Why would you think anyone would tell you to leave him? Or are you thinking of leaving him over it? I could think of lots worse things guys could do....and if it bothers you, then tell him not to do it in front of you.

As for eating with that hand, everyone should wash their hands before eating, no matter what they've been touching.....and there are probably other things he might touch that could be dirtier than that.

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Mon, 07-05-2004 - 9:22am
I will sometimes touch or run my fingertips over my penis or scrotum. It just feels good, even if I'm not looking for an erection, masturbation, or warmup to lovemaking. In a way, too, it's an affirmation of my masculinity. Women have posted on this board that they can feel more feminine wearing certain panties (or none at all), wearing tight or revealing clothing, even if they aren't planning on lovemaking anytime soon.
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Tue, 07-06-2004 - 2:12am
I've asked this question before...on this board and others and, personally, to my DH and other males I know well. The only answer I've ever gotten that makes any sense to me is

"because I can." I know it feels good, too, but my own theory, after raising sons, is that it provides a sense of security and calm. When they were excited or scared, they would reach for their penis. I think they just never outgrow that.
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Tue, 07-06-2004 - 9:07am
'd rather have my wife do it for me. Maybe he watches too many baseball games.
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Tue, 07-06-2004 - 12:58pm
The most my hubby does is re-arrange things down there, ha-ha. Other than that, he will take it out when he is hard and surprise me with it while I'm doing dishes or something. I would find it appauling for my guy to always have his hands down his pants though. I mean, yes, if you're trying to get off or get yourself aroused, but to just sit there with his hands down his pants with no intention of sexual use - turn off for me.