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what's your perfect size?
| Tue, 02-05-2008 - 9:39pm |
Hey i got a question for everyone... How big is your SO's member or your member and in your opinion what is the perfect size...

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First off, I apologize, because I had not read the whole thread before responding to Hump.
rain-dancer wrote:
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Rainy, nice to see you again too....
I agree with most everything you said....I have rarely been one who thinks size matters that much...Could be because I am of above average size, and could also be I realise ,for many women, a tongue is actually a better sex organ than a penis is.
When I said that breasts are just for decoration, the term decoration implies it IS
Your posts do tend to strongly say or imply all women don't care about size. If size made no difference to some women the polls would indicate so. You leave out a lot and imply a lot in your posts.
And there you go bringing up size queens to make a point.
I don't think anyone ever said that all women don't care about size.
Then how can you possible claim to know what was making your neighbor moan during sex without asking her directly? You speculated the scenario that fit your explanation, when in fact, it could have been so far off base it landed on Mars! (I'm not even going to start on why you felt it necessary to monitor or speculate about what was happening on the other side of the wall.)
What makes you so sure that they weren't using a vibrator, or a position that made her moan. Perhaps she wasn't comfortable enough with her newer BF to suggest they do the same. How can you use your explanation to explain my moans during masturbation? How is it that my shower head can make me moan as much or more than a penis? Why do I moan more during doggy style sex than I do during WOT sex with the same lover? You simply can't answer those questions by speculating from the other side of a wall!
As for your interest in the posterior fornix (and such), the first time I recall feeling sensation there was within the past year, with DH. I have had at least a dozen lovers over the years, most better hung than he. What I didn't do with those lovers was experiment with position to the extent that I have with my DH .... nor did I have sex for two and three hours at a time with any of those lovers as I do with DH .... nor did I reach the same heightened state of arousal with any of those lovers as I do with DH .... nor did I have near the same number of orgasms with any of those lovers and I do with DH.
"I sort of wish no one else would post in this thread again so I don't have to read the lop sided, incomplete, set in stone, way thinking on the physical aspect of this. I don't want to respond to this thread anymore, and may not no matter what is posted."
Besides having an obligation to read the posts here, I love a good debate. You, on the other hand, don't have to read or respond here. You could simply walk away, shaking your head, but you choose to be here because you are trying to prove your side of the debate .... actually, I believe you are the person that is causing the debate. The OP simply asked a question that allowed members to respond with their own preferences. It is you who have challenged those comments.
"Yet I step back and fight my inclination in the name of truth. Why can't you folks do the same?"
With the absence of a vagina, you can only go on what you read or have heard or have conjured up in your own head. As women, we have a different viewpoint on truth. That truth being one that we have lived and experienced!
I could sit and really think about all of my lovers and bring each of them into the picture of truth here. I will speak of some ....
My first lover was by far the best endowed. He was not a very skilled lover, yet I was able to have orgasms with him when I placed myself in a position to have clitoral stimulation, such as WOT. There was another position we used that was a twist on spooning that allowed his leg to stimulate my clitoris. In both cases, he was completely still and I did all the movement to reach orgasm. I spent nearly 3 years with him, and would have spent a lifetime with him, sexually satisfied, but lacking in other areas of my life. Thus, I ended the relationship.
Another lover of mine was also well-endowed. He was great at performing oral sex and most of my orgasms with him occurred prior to intercourse. He was very routine and boring, with little sign of breaking out of his routine. Still, I would have stayed in a relationship with him, but we parted ways because he wasn't ready to settle down. That relationship had lasted for a little over a year and began as a sexual relationship.
Another lover of mine was not well-endowed. He was probably on the smaller side of average where penises are concerned. He was a FWB, who loved to perform oral sex. He had some issues with ED and would prefer to only satisfy me. It was a wonderful relationship as far as orgasms go .... but there was nothing more to the relationship.
In another relationship, my lover of two years or so was well-endowed. He was also very skilled and willing to experiment. I'm sure that we would have had a wonderful sex life, but we had a toxic relationship, which definitely overshadowed the good feelings of sex.
My husband is the last lover I'll discuss on this thread. I am fairly certain that he would fall in the range of average as far as penis size. He is by far the best lover I have ever had. He's a very gentle person who doesn't push. He's very accepting and would live in a routine, happily. While the sex was good, it wasn't spectacular. What was spectacular was the care, compassion and love we felt for each other both in and out of the bedroom. In the 17+ years that we have been together, we have continued to develop sexually by experimenting and communicating with each other, especially over the past few years. The sex we have now is off the charts as far as spectacular is concerned .... but it has nothing to do with his penis size.
These are the types of real life experiences that cause me to stand by my statement that size doesn't matter. You may accept them as truth or you may deny them with your "inclination". That choice is yours, but I'll enter any debate with this truth that I have lived.
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is if they are in possession of a vagina. If you are equipped with one, then you
would certainly be qualified to render an opinion as to how large (or small), a penis
had to be in order for you to find satisfaction.
That said, and since you have stated that you are a proponent of genital alteration
through the various methods alleged to have success, I wonder if you have ever considered
gender reassignment in order to better help you in proving your assertions?
With the addition of an "r" (metamorphisizes), I will encourage the committee to enter it into our board dictionary!
I like that word :-)
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rainy you said,"It is going to hug any object that it comes into contact with (which is why a tampon stays inside), whether it's larger or small and so the amount of "friction" on the walls will be the same because the relativity of the two surfaces rubbing together will be the same (engorgement notwithstanding).
I agree that vagina's come in different sizes as well. I do, however, think for the most part that women who do not have well-toned PC muscles are the same women who will appear to have a larger vagina.
I know after the birth of my first son, I had a lot of trouble getting my PC muscles back in shape. I didn't feel the same sensations during sex (with the same partner). Since I ended up with an emergency c-section after pushing for 2 1/2 hours, I think it's actually the outward pushing that damages the muscles more so than the baby passing through the canal. Of course, that's an entirely different topic.
There are a lot of factors that can contribute to the PC muscles not being well-toned. I don't have any statistics to report, but it has been proven that when a women has better control over her PC muscles (and thus better tone), it increases sexual pleasure for both her and her partner.
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