When does No = No, and No = smthg else
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| Thu, 04-24-2008 - 5:37pm |
Ok, I am a young man, very nice, sweet, and a little mature. so I would not hurt a girl... but I have a huge problem.
I have met so many girls who have told me 'no' as an answer for dating, French kissing, making love, changing positions, or whatever else, and i simply took them at the word cuz I respected them. I moved on, met somebody who likes me, and then months later the previous girl go "I was crazy over u. if you liked me, u would have not given up so easily", or "you were just supposed to do it just a lil different". WHAT!?!?! No thanks, not another statistics. Well, now, I have had that so many times, and it keeps happening, so I'm lost now.
So this is my question. Maybe give me some hints, body language, not-so-corny clarifying questions to ask. Remember we are all mature, I am talking about subtle, non-threatening things. So asides from the clear-cut cases, when should men take 'no' for an answer, patch the self-esteem, and move-on, and when should we take the 'no' as you expressing to us that although u want us badly, maybe u need more time, more space, practice, romance, or just a different setting... and that you truly don't want us to just stop.
(I hope I make sense...)

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Welcome to the board, joshua_rae.
I'm not really sure what advice to give you. If these women are crazy about you, it doesn't make sense that they would say no to a date. That's not mature. Sounds like moving on was the right choice.
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Josh,the path to a womans heart,soul and the truth is through eyes. To a lesser degree her body language and the tone of her voice,like when she says no but means yes. Confused? LOL Don't let it bother you. There's a learning curve for a man to understand a woman. Women aren't complicated, they just think differently. Now you're really confused! LOL Go on Google type in reading a persons eyes and reading a womans eyes. Understanding body language. Last but not least spend time on i.Village and read what women say. The following is a biggie! If you want to satisfy all of a womans needs,it starts by satisfying her emotional needs
"when should we take the 'no' as you expressing to us that although u want us badly, maybe u need more time, more space, practice, romance, or just a different setting... and that you truly don't want us to just stop."
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I totally agree!
I have a very simple answer for you!
I agree with the posters that said always take no as meaning no.
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