When eyes meet

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Registered: 09-27-2005
When eyes meet
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 12:15pm

Ladies help me with this. This maynot be the right board to ask this.I have asked my wife but she just dismisses my thoughts and says I am imagining things. So ladies tell me what you think..

Ladie lets say your eyes meet with another man. You both smile. Lets say this happens again and again. Say at the gym, or a shopping mall, resturant. Is it purely innocent, is there some kind of mutul attraction? Is it flirting? Or am I seeing to much into this? My wife says her eyes never meet a man's eyes.She says men never look at her,and she never looks at men. For some reason this seems to be happening to me. Am I making it happen? Is there some kind of sub-concious thing going on. DO I make it happen, am I somehow making it happen to where it is making women feel umcomfortable? Do I make myself look like a creep.

It just seem like there are times I an a nother females eyes keep on meeting? What are these women thinking, what am I thinking. Do I have a piece of food stuck in my teeth? Am I a hedious looking person and they stare cause I am so ugly???? OR am I just funny looking??

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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: male65401
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 2:32pm

I think you already know the answer.

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Registered: 09-27-2005
In reply to: male65401
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 2:44pm

Maybe Iam just vain and I think women are looking at me.Maybe I am insecure. Maybe I want to think I still have it. Whatever "IT" is..Jeez I have just open a whole can of worms that will take years of therapy.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
In reply to: male65401
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 9:34pm
Like sakura said, it all depends on the individual people and circumstances involved. Although, I do have to say, I find I can sense when someone is looking at me and I do look back, smile and say hello. I also like to people watch. And I am a very friendly person. I will talk to just about everyone I see, whether walking down the street, in the grocery store, the post office, or



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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: male65401
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 10:23pm

I think your eyes will meet the eyes of others if you allow them too. Whether that's because you're flirting, a happy go lucky person, or just having a great day, it can still happen. So, let's say, you're walking around, feeling confident and making eye contact. It makes you feel good -- regardless of the motives. Enjoy it!

I know that I'm much more likely now to make eye contact with people than I was just a few years ago. The amount of stress in my life, not feeling comfortable where I was, or my own issues kept me from making eye contact with people.

When I do make eye contact with people now, I often wonder what they're thinking. I know that I'm more likely to make eye contact with someone who looks happy and confident. I don't worry about what they think of me for noticing them. Also, I'm not then turning around and staring at them as they keep walking. If I'm having a day where I seem to make eye contact with more guys than gals, well then I might start thinking "I'm hot" .... unless I discover later that toilet paper was streaming off of the back of my shoe!

I wouldn't invest too much in therapy about this. Is your wife concerned that you are making too much eye contact? Is she worried about why your making eye contact? Are you having illicit thoughts when you do make eye contact?

Personally, I think feeding your own ego is good -- unless it's at the expense of others. And if you do discover that you have spinach stuck in your teeth once you get to the mirror, then laugh it off.



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Registered: 10-28-2006
In reply to: male65401
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 5:20am

Hi

Ladies lets say your eyes meet with another man. You both smile. Lets say this happens again and again. Say at the gym, or a shopping mall, restaurant. Is it purely innocent, is there some kind of mutual attraction? Is it flirting? Or am I seeing to much into this?

When I and a man's eyes meet over and over with a grin it's usually because
I am attracted to them and most of the time that's it, doesn't always mean anything else leaving it innocent in my eyes and just enjoying others beauty. I love checking
out people and just being observant I catch lots of peoples eyes and flash
a smile because it's always better then a frown I am a very social person.
So it's like Sakura said it's all back to "motive" Hope this helps

Kareese