when i want to have sex but "she" doesnt

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Registered: 09-18-2005
when i want to have sex but "she" doesnt
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Thu, 02-15-2007 - 1:03pm
i find sometimes that when i'm with my boyfriend and we're starting to get hot and heavy and we want to have sex, i am not ready, down there. i find i'm sometimes dry and too tight for any penetration. i know as females we need foreplay etc to get our juices flowing but i think for sure i'm ready to go when it turns out i'm not! plus sometimes when we are being intimate, and sometimes happens (i heard a noise, etc) i can almost feel her shrinking away and getting smaller and then its just not fun anymore. am i alone in these things?
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Registered: 05-18-2006
Sometimes even though you think you're ready not all parts are. Try getting a good lube sometimes you just need extra help down there, no matter how ready you are. As for the noise it's normal and I find it usually happens when DH is behind me.

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Registered: 12-12-2006

"She" is your vagina! You say when you hear a noise, or whatever you dry up. So, I guess you're doing it on the "sneak"....and you're afraid of getting caught. That'll do it!

You say you know about foreplay, but you didn't say if you're GETTING foreplay...very few women are wet enough just from "wanting" it, and if you're nervous about someone coming in on you, for sure you're not relaxed enough to have sex. Try some lubrication, but that's not going to relax your vaginal muscles. Maybe you need to find a better place to have sex.