When I'm bitchy . . .

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When I'm bitchy . . .
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Mon, 05-30-2005 - 3:52pm

OK, ladies. When you're bitchy (and you know it happens!), how do you like to be treated?

Like a queen? Leave me alone? Give me a good pounding? What?

It seems that no matter how hard I try to get through the week without getting yelled at, I fail. So, how 'bout giving some advice to the 50% of the world population that doesn't have a clue what you go through every month.

When you're bitchy, how do you want to be handled?

krn :o|

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Mon, 05-30-2005 - 5:06pm

I only get bitchy when I have something to bitch about.


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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 3:23am
My "bitchy" days come only the day before my period, however, I'm usually well into "bitch" mode before I realize why (no, I don't track my periods). On those days, I'm better left on a deserted island because no one in my life can do anything right (including me). In other words - leave me alone and take everything breakable with you! LOL!
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 9:19am
I'm a pretty low-key kind of person. I don't let things bother me. I don't know why, but that's the way I've always been. With one exception, like Unoshopper, the day before my period something happens in my system. I get irritable, mushy, and frustrated(even with myself). Like her, I tend to be butterfingers all day...tee hee I don't even realize that I'm getting my period until I feel these urges. DH recognizes it right away because it's so out of character for me. How do I want to be treated? Normally. I don't expect others to walk on eggshells because of how I'm feeling. I just want to be forgiven for anything I say or do. ;-)
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 9:38am
A guy here, just wanting to give my observations for more food for discussion.
First, krntrn2, You have asked a very important and controvercial question. You've got guts!! LOL I would love to hear the answers, however I think that the way to treat a woman during those times will change as rapidly and unexpectedly and the emotional moods.
Please, ladies, take no offense. We(men) simply do not and can not understand. I can only correlate it to having something like a nagging cramping pain that wont let up and imagine what my mood and temper would be like.
My mother taught me, when I started dating, to track my SO's cycles. It does seem to help even if she's not regular, just to know a few days ahead of time to start...uh...laying low...LOL. With my exwife there was nothing I could do right.
My present SO is totally different. She has cramping and mood swings, but the general mood a few days before is that of an increased libido....Yes, there is a God. I track her cycles to know when I need to be rested up and take my vitamins. LOL
Anxious to hear the answers on this one.
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 9:45am
I am horrible when I'm bitchy -- usually in the lead up to my period. The best thing to do is to stay away from me or I am likely to snap your head off! Elaine
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 9:49am

Elaine,

Do you have a secret, lost twin sister? I think I found her.

krn

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 4:03pm

Well, first I reject the term "bitchy" being applied to women only because women aren't the only ones who can have a bad day! So, why do we label cranky women "bitchy" and cranky men just cranky? They're one and the same, aren't they? Whether it occurs once a month or daily for some people I know!

Personally, I only experience irritability or crankiness premenstrually, starting usually 4-5 days before the flow begins. Generally though, I'm pretty even tempered. And when I'm not, I just like to be understood and forgiven by my patient DH. No special treatment needed. Well....maybe just some space, as I allow HIM on a bad day.

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 4:34pm

Kat,

Don't get me wrong. I have my moments too! They're just not as predictable :o| I'm just looking for a good way to handle my wife. She knows how to handle me when I'm bitchy.

krn

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 4:39pm
Oi vey...and "psycho" another one! ;-)-- right along with "slut."
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 4:52pm

I understand but after all our years together, I can predict when my DH's sour moods will appear as well as he can mine. I think for most people, SPACE is important when dealing with an irritable person.

Be like the perfect salesperson....around and available if needed, but not hovering!