When I'm just too tired for sex....

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Registered: 07-22-2004
When I'm just too tired for sex....
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 9:36am

When I'm just too tired for sex....



  • Don't bother me. Very selfish if you do.
  • I'll be willing to, but I get more of the enjoyment out of it.
  • I don't care, I want to please my partner and will try my best.
  • Other.


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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 10:48am
I voted *Other*.

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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 12:16pm

I agree. I don't remember the last time I was "too tired" for sex, b/c sex helps me destress and relax, so even when I'm cranky and grumpy and "tired" I welcome sex b/c I know I'm going to feel better afterwards than I did going into it.

We also don't push ourselves for 2 hour, multiple orgasm, romantic "lovemaking" every time - *especially* if one or both of us has had a hard day and doesn't feel like putting a lot of effort into it.

 

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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 12:24pm
I voted Other because 1) it goes both ways; he gets too tired sometimes too 2) if often happens for both of us at the same time and 3)

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 9:57pm

Same here. DH wouldn't ask me if I were tired, because wants me to be equally enthusiastic about it. The choice of "do it anyway because I want to please my partner" is not something that either of us believe in. Likewise, if he's just doing it to keep me happy, I'd rather go without.

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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 10:47pm

"Don't bother me".

If I'm really THAT tired, then I really am that tired. You'll live even if you get it tomorrow and don't get it this evening.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 12:04am
I agree. This has been a very hard week for me, emotionally, physically and mentally. I have also been having a hard time sleeping. I have been too tired for sex (before also) and this week is the worst ever of my whole life. He was cautious last night, asking me if I wanted to and I felt totally comfortable saying "No, just hold me." And he gently complied.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 6:59pm

I think the Mrs. & I are the type as well. When it comes to holding each other to sleep or something similar, thats one thing.

When we're just too darn tired for sex, then we do NOT push one another on it at all. Does that mean that we don't for one another? NO, not at all. We just enjoy more when we're both ready for it.

I notice some of the comments including "asking" or even "talking" about it as well. For my marriage, the talk is usually through how we physically express interest and how the response to it is, so we never got around to asking if the other wanted it or not, lol. Just interesting to remember how unique each relationship truly is.

 

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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 7:30am

I voted for the "Don't bother me" thinking of my DW's point of view. When she is falling asleep in the recliner at 9:00 pm, trying to please her at 10:30 is a waste of time. All it does is make me feel like a lousy lover. I have learned to wait until she is better rested before I initiate lovemaking.

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