Where do you draw the line........?

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Where do you draw the line........?
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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 8:34pm
Where do you draw the line with fantasy and kinkiness?
I’m all for anything fantasy and kinky in a relationship, but I draw the line when it comes to introducing others.
I am not a jealous person, but that would definitely disturb me as I can’t understand nor do I have any inclination to accept a 3-some, 4-some etc….
For me, a relationship is a union, “us” and doesn’t include the provision to introduce others….when it does, it becomes “me and you”.
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Registered: 10-15-2006
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 9:03pm

You draw the line wherever your comfort level lies and that will be different with each of us. It may even vary within the couple in which case wherever the line is drawn first IMO is where it stands. It also may vary over time. If you don't want to introduce other people into the intimate moments with your dh then it would absolutely be a bad idea to do so especially if it was to appease your partner.

E.

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Registered: 10-28-2006
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 10:40pm

I agree with you. i draw the the line with bringing others in our sex life.
Nope!! Just wouldn't work! I want do anything painful ethier. Nope not my thing.
There's lots of things I want turn down. But those to are a quick NO!

That's just me
kareese

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Registered: 05-30-2007
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 11:21pm

I draw the line at bringing other people into our bedroom. NO HOW NO WAY! I am willing to try anything at least once but that is a definite NO.

SexyPRgirl

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 12:15am

You draw YOUR line where ever you want to. If your partner wants to do something that you don't want to do......you say NO! If your partner doesn't like that, then you're with the wrong partner. There's no reason he can't suggest something, but he also needs to respect your feelings and your decision.

Some people are fine with threesomes, foursomes, swinging, open marriages, whatever, and that's fine if they're both happy with it. If one isn't happy with it, then that one is in the wrong relationship with the wrong person.

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 5:28am
You took the words right out of my mouth, “NO WAY, NO HOW”.
The only threesome I’ll be having is me, him and a sex toy!���LOL
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 6:53am

I have found that the longer I am with my partner, the more the line changes (LOL). We are both very respectful of the wishes of the other, but we have also found through open discussion that we are both willing to do more than the other thought.

Sometimes we talk about things and decide we probably shouldn't "go there", but history has proven that our thoughts might change over time. If nothing else, that attitude helps to keep fantasies alive.



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Registered: 05-11-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 8:20am

>>The only threesome I’ll be having is me, him and a sex toy!…LOL<<

That's definitely my line too! I am not jealous, he can look all he wants but when it comes to sharing I flunked that subject in kindergarten hehe!

I find that my line has changed a lot over the years too. I still haven't found my limits yet except for the sharing part :)

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 1:22pm

I draw many lines;
(1) Nothing that removes the equality of either partner. Just because I'm the woman/wife doesn't make me the submissive/subserviant type.

(2) Nothing that's degrading or humiliating. I'm not his prisoner nor his possesion.

(3) Nothing that involves risk of injury or illness to my body, just because I'm physically the accomodating partner ( female ), doesn't make me his to use and abuse for whipping/sodomizing.

(4) No outsiders, that's not marriage.

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Registered: 07-19-2007
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 9:17pm
misty is right that the line keeps moving the more you know about a person. As for me, I'll try anything except scat.