You cannot make broad 'one size fits all' generalizations like this that will apply to everyone. Each person is an individual, with their own individual sexuality. Some men are high libido, while others are low libido, and the same for women. Some men are in touch with their bodies and their partners' bodies and knowledgeable about how to please their partners, while others are not, and the same goes for women. Some men enjoy their partner's pleasure as much as they enjoy their own, while others are only interested in getting their rocks off. Similarly some women enjoy pleasing their partner and take pleasure from his pleasure, while other women look upon sex as something to be 'endured' for his sake.
As far as what 'most guys' know or don't know about female sexuality, you presume far too much in attempting to speak for an entire gender and lump us all into a single bucket of your own construction.
I don't think you can say that men or woman are more sexual as an entire group. It really depends on the individual person. Just as you mention women can have 3 types of orgasms, you need to also think about the fact that many women go their entire lives without having even one orgasm. One could argue that is the guys fault, that he doesn't know how to please her, but the reality is having an orgasm is each persons own responsibility. A woman who lives her whole life without ever having an orgasm probably doesn't have a very high libido, and certainly doesn't have a high interest in exploring her sexuality.
While men may not be able to ejaculate frequently or more than once in a given time, they certainly can have orgasms without ejaculating. They can also train themselves to hold back from ejaculating so that they can participate for a longer time while engaged in sexual activity.
For both sexes, so much of sexuality exists within the brain. Learning about your partner, exploring new pleasures with your partner and wanting to please your partner all contribute to your own sexuality as well. Those things cross gender lines in every way. The woman who is having sex with her husband out of what she feels is duty, may have never had an orgasm herself, and certainly isn't more sexual then "men". Her husband may have tried to get her to enjoy sex and she may have not responded, or he may have never tried -- in either event, he may be totally satisfied this way. Not every person wants to put a lot of effort into having sex for their own benefit, or while helping to satisfy their lover. It really has more to do with the libido of the individual person -- and even then, what that person wants from the experience.
I think it's far more important that the two people are closely matched in their desires or libido than it is for one to be more sexual than the other.
As far as what 'most guys' know or don't know about female sexuality, you presume far too much in attempting to speak for an entire gender and lump us all into a single bucket of your own construction.
I don't think you can say that men or woman are more sexual as an entire group. It really depends on the individual person. Just as you mention women can have 3 types of orgasms, you need to also think about the fact that many women go their entire lives without having even one orgasm. One could argue that is the guys fault, that he doesn't know how to please her, but the reality is having an orgasm is each persons own responsibility. A woman who lives her whole life without ever having an orgasm probably doesn't have a very high libido, and certainly doesn't have a high interest in exploring her sexuality.
While men may not be able to ejaculate frequently or more than once in a given time, they certainly can have orgasms without ejaculating. They can also train themselves to hold back from ejaculating so that they can participate for a longer time while engaged in sexual activity.
For both sexes, so much of sexuality exists within the brain. Learning about your partner, exploring new pleasures with your partner and wanting to please your partner all contribute to your own sexuality as well. Those things cross gender lines in every way. The woman who is having sex with her husband out of what she feels is duty, may have never had an orgasm herself, and certainly isn't more sexual then "men". Her husband may have tried to get her to enjoy sex and she may have not responded, or he may have never tried -- in either event, he may be totally satisfied this way. Not every person wants to put a lot of effort into having sex for their own benefit, or while helping to satisfy their lover. It really has more to do with the libido of the individual person -- and even then, what that person wants from the experience.
I think it's far more important that the two people are closely matched in their desires or libido than it is for one to be more sexual than the other.
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I disagree, who is more sexual is an individual thing not a gender thing.
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I think you're analyzing too much on
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Where is it written that to be sexual you have to orgasmic?