Who is more to blame in having an affair

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Who is more to blame in having an affair
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Sun, 09-05-2004 - 11:03am

Who is more to blame in having an affair



  • The "other" woman/man
  • The one who is in a relationship
  • Both parties involved are equally responsible


You will be able to change your vote.



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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 09-05-2004 - 7:22pm

Disagree with you Christy.


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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sun, 09-05-2004 - 11:14pm
I'm not going to get involved in the debate but I'll just throw my 2c in:

I think that the one in the relationship is more culpable, but both are at fault.

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 1:20am
> Well, that's because you're a sociopath. Some people, those with souls and consciences, > particularly, may have some moral compunction about doing something like that. That you > don't is frightening.

_Totally_ inappropriate post. I am just telling you what I think. Why you attack me personally, I have no idea.

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 2:06am
<<> Well, that's because you're a sociopath. Some people, those with souls and consciences, > particularly, may have some moral compunction about doing something like that. That you > don't is frightening.

_Totally_ inappropriate post. I am just telling you what I think. Why you attack me personally, I have no idea. >>


I agree with Christy, that was in very bad taste.

I think that the third party does share SOME reponsibility IF the straying partner wouldn't have otherwise strayed. I don't think that happens often though because most partners that cheat were open to that possibility before they decided to have sex with whatever extra-couple partner they happen to be having sex with at any particular time.

-phat

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 3:13am
Wow, probably one of the most callous posts I have read in awhile! I also think if it were you who it happened to, you would be singing a different tune. Why else would you keep mentioning your ace in the hole to keep your FWB away from the friend that was flirting with him.

Leticia

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 4:33am

Wrote to Christy


  

   who_reallyknows

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 5:33am

A person IN a relationship who has affairs is lower than low. A person who willingly has an affair with that person is JUST as low. Because one isn't attached doesn't absolve them of responsibility.


I would have to

  

   who_reallyknows

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 9:18am

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 10:41am

cl-issytish


(This person is cheating either way 9 times out of 10, pushing to ruin the relationship he is already in would be selfish.)


I went back to edit this, I know you still disagree with the statement either way, but it was suppose to be this.


You (not meaning you personally) know the person is in a relationship and yet you still have sex with him/her, how is that respectful???

  

   who_reallyknows

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 10:48am
I'm not sure I understand your reply. Are you saying that a cheater will cheat, so it doesn't make any difference who he cheats with? So, that means that if I meet a married man who cheats on his wife, it's ok if I have an affair with him, because if it wasn't me, it would be someone else? Sure, that's probably true. However, do I think so little of myself that I would use that excuse? It might as well be me as some other bimbo?

Sorry, but I'd rather it be someone else who doesn't have any self respect.

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